(Closed) FMIL….Vent (help please!!!)

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

oh my Future Mother-In-Law does this to us ALL the time. She is always telling us how she never talks to us, or never knows whats going on bc we never see her. Um excuse me but you call one of us at least once a day, we see you just about every week. I just want to tell her “Get over it already lady!” I feel you!

Post # 4
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Maybe you can make time to spend with her? Like a monthly double date with her and FFIL? Also, maybe if she got to spend some time with (just) you, like you could go get your nails done together or get shoulder massages or go shopping or go out for tea… anyway, maybe if you work on your relationship with her, it’ll ease her fears of losing her son!

Post # 6
1897 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yeah, I have this too.  FMIL is divorced, husband left for for a significantly younger and hotter woman (ouch).  Soooo, we get a lot of lonely phone calls, a lot of “you never call me”, etc, etc….  I try to put myself in her shoes, and it must be heartbreaking for her to feel like I’ve stolen her only son.  BUT, at the same time, I learned that when Fiance and I have children of our own, I don’t want my kids to be my entire life.  I want something else, because kids grow up and get their own lives, and I don;t want to sit at home missing them to this extreme extent.  I went a lot to my friends about it, but to my Future Mother-In-Law I try to call her a lot and send her cards, I encourage her to date, and we go shopping a lot.    

Post # 7
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m with you on this. My Future Mother-In-Law always tells my Fiance to move home… she pretends shes joking but I know she’s not. It’s so annoying and rude he chose to move out , she used to freak out when he slept over we are 22 years old a little weird to me…

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