Post # 1
I need your help!
My FMIL is a very sweet nice person, but she has a spiteful side that I’ve never seen until she went dress shopping!
Here’s the low-down:
My mom bought her dress – night blue, looks fabulous on her. My bridesmaids are wearing navy blue.
His mom was planning on reusing the dress she wore to my fiance’s sister’s wedding back in 2006. He wasn’t thrilled about this as that marriage didn’t end up working out, so he asked her to at least to try to find a new dress. So she did.
Found a blue dress. (HEAD IN HANDS HERE) She hadn’t bought it yet, wanted our feedback. He told her to find a different color because my mom is wearing blue
Needless to say she was NOT happy that we asked her nicely to find a new color.
So she went out and got a VERY similar dress to my mom’s, but at least in a different color. It’s the same fabric, same sheen, same styling.
Now ladies, I’m asking your opinion…. what do you think? Are they too much alike?
The 1st dress is my mom’s (sleeveless), while his mom got the one with the jacket.
Post # 3
I think they are different enough. Sucks that you have to go through this. But it could be much worse! Since your moms doesn’t have a jacket and your FMILs doesn’t have as much beading . . I think it should be fine.
Post # 4
I don’t think they’re too alike. Your mom’s has more beading and a different neckline.
Post # 5
My mother sent me this story in an e-mail. I think its oddly fitting.
HOW TO BE A GRACIOUS BITCH
Jennifer’s wedding day was fast approaching. Nothing could
dampen her excitement – not even her parent’s nasty divorce.
Her mother had found the PERFECT dress to wear, and would
be the best-dressed mother-of-the-bride ever!
A week later, Jennifer was horrified to learn that her father’s
new, young wife had bought the exact same dress as her mother!
Jennifer asked her father’s new young wife to exchange it, but
she refused. ”Absolutely not! I look like a million bucks in this
dress, and I’m wearing it,” she replied.
Jennifer told her mother who graciously said, ”Never mind
sweetheart. I’ll get another dress. After all, it’s your special
A few days later, they went shopping, and did find another
gorgeous dress for her mother.
When they stopped for lunch, Jennifer asked her mother, ”Aren’t
you going to return the other dress? You really don’t have another
occasion where you could wear it.”
Her mother just smiled and replied, ”Of course I do, dear…..I’m
wearing it to the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding.”
Post # 6
I personally don’t think they look alike at all except for the fact that they’re long dresses. Your mom’s has crystal’s all over the top is a v neck and has no jacket, your mother in law’s hardly has any crystals has a jacket and appears to have a sweet heart neck line, and rouching. As far as the material goes, a lot of bridal party attire use the same material.
Post # 7
Nah, you’re fine. They look different for sure. Aleast your mom chose somthing classy. My mom…oh god! she looks like shes just stepped out of a trailer. She had to choose the EXACT same colors as my bridesmaids and its short and ruffled and bejeweled in the cleavage (which goes down low)…Im thinking about sneaking into her house in the middle of the night and torching it lol. Anyways, those look totally different, so i wouldnt worry too much.
Post # 8
I think they are fine! I will probably come across the same issue with my mum and MIL when the time comes. But as they are different colours i think think they are fine!
Post # 9
@zippylef – LOVE that email forward!
Post # 10
@Zippy LMAO… great story!
I think the dresses are different enough so it won’t matter. If they were the same color it would be different but they arent, have different necklines/beading and FMIL’s has a jacket while your mom’s has a wrap.
Post # 11
I think they are fine. Just remember the bigger picture here.
Post # 12
I think the dresses are different enough. I think that the dresses actually compliment each other – they’ll look great in pictures.
Post # 13
That’s so annoying but it could be a lot worse…at least it’s not fire engine red or hot pink! Those 2 colors will look nice in pictures IMO….
Post # 14
They do not look that much alike. I would let this one go.
Post # 15
I think the dresses look significantly different. Asking her to choose a new dress after doing that twice already ( 1-asking her to buy a new dress, not the one she wore before and 2-asking her to choose a dress in a diff color after she CHOSE a new dress) would be too much IMO. If I were her I would feel really jerked around… it seems like she’s doing everything she possibly can to keep you guys happy. You could have told her in advance not to choose blue or a dress similar to your mom’s.. and that one is quite different so I think it will be fine! Good luck 🙂
Post # 16
Both my mom and mother-in-law wore navy blue dresses to my wedding. It really wasn’t a big deal. I’ve been to several weddings were the mothers wore the same color dress. Nobody said anything and it was easy to distinguish the mothers.
I like both dresses. Your mom is going to look great!!! Don’t sweat it. Everything will work out 🙂