- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I was wondering if anyone has good, wise advice regarding future mother in laws.
I just became engaged to lovely guy. He is neutral, diplomatic and doesn’t like conflict. He’s very close with his family, especially his Mum.
I’ve had a few conflicts with his Mum and older Sister in the past. I find them to be quite offensive at times but it is always very subtle and on the sly. His elder Sister is very competitive and both her and her Mum can be quite jealous of my relationship with their Son/Brother.
I’m a bit concerned about the fact that we’re now engaged because I feel defensive and nervous about how they will react. His Mum and Sister are skilled in the art of asking questions about my soft spots – changing jobs/changing study courses and not completing my degree. They have made fun of my work choices in the past and once likened my part time uni job to, “working in an Indian call centre”. When I brought this up with them, his Mum denied everything and accussed me of being crazy and delusional. This was a while ago but I’m fearful that their nasty side could come out again now that things are getting more committed.
We became engaged in the last week or so and already I feel like the flood gates have opened – my weight, wedding plans, family, engagement ring, everything will all be open to scrutiny and subtle comments. I’m nervous about public events and being embarrassed infront of my fiance’s friends. My future MIL can be quite possessive over her Son and likes to make a point of knowing his friends for years and years. It sometimes feels like she’s forgotten she’s 60 and not one of his piers. Her daughter and her make me feel like I’m in highschool again and I’m on edge about what to expect.
Any advice welcome.