Post # 1
Ok bees here it goes:
My fiance’s mom has asked me the price of my dress through a text twice. I don’t want to tell her because I don’t want her to be telling everyone! Am I totally off base or is it none of her business? I don’t see why it is any of her business how much we pay for anything because it is not her money that we are spending!
Post # 3
Unless she’s buying I would think not! I can’t imagine why that’s something she would want to know anyway, so next time she asks just answer, “Not nearly as much as it’s worth!”
Post # 4
@Nona99: “Not nearly as much as it’s worth!” AMEN!
Post # 5
I agree that, unless she is helping to pay for the dress, she is not entitled to this information. I would be polite but direct and simply tell her that you would prefer not to discuss financial aspects of the wedding.
Post # 6
I would politely ask her why she wants to know and say “not nearly as much as it’s worth” with and “LOL” at the end !!
Post # 7
I may be way off base here, but is it possible that she wants to help with it? Maybe she wants to know how much it was so she can write you a check…
Post # 8
@KLB264: Maybe she wants to pay for it! In that case you can inflate the price amount a bit..if not deflate it and make up an amount..it’s none of her business anyways
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Does she say why she wants to know? It’s not any of her business, IMO, unless she helped to pay for it, of course. How is your relationship with her? Is your mom helping to pay for part or all of the dress? The only reason I can think of why she is so curious is to maybe gauge how much your parents are spending or how much they make, IDK…this is kind of weird. Maybe she’s just plain nosy…
Post # 10
Well she is a nosy person for sure! She has never said that she wanted to help pay for it but I guess maybe that could be it. And yes my parents gave us a set amount of money and said you do what you want with it but this is what we are giving to you.
Post # 11
Are you close otherwise? Is she involved in paying for the wedding?
If my FMIL asked, I’d assume she was just curious. We’re close, though, and she’s sharing the cost of the wedding (not the dress specifically).
I’d say unless she has a history of being nosy or inappropriate, I’d cut her some slack. You obviously are under no obligation to tell her how much it costs, though!
Post # 12
@jdhall89: We used to be a lot closer but in the last 2 years she really hasn’t been involved much in our lives. She is paying for the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 13
I don’t see why she would care… That’s an odd question to ask. My FMIL hasn’t even asked me where my dress is from, she just says it’s pretty. What does your fiancé think?
Post # 14
i would feel uncomfortable divulging that information too. i don’t even want my fiance to know how much my dress cost, and it’s not like i even spent a tonnnnn of money on it. i would stick with something vague! if she really wants to help pay, she’ll make it clear.
Post # 15
If you’re not comfortable sharing that information, then you’re not comfortable. FMIL asked me how much it was, and I told her straight up, and even added in how much alterations are going to cost (estimated). I don’t have a problem telling her because she’s not going to tell anyone how much it cost. She is NOT a gossiper and is so excited about going with me once the dress comes in. She was just curious about the price since she’d have guessed the dress was at least 3x more than what I paid for it. My grandpa actually left my mom some money when he died, specifically for buying by wedding dress (He REALLY wanted to buy all his grandaughters’ wedding dresses, but when he learned he had prostate cancer and only 6 months to live and none of us were getting married he did the next best thing!) so it wasn’t like she wanted to check if we were blowing our budget or if I was spending too much/too little.
But, that being said, not everyone has my FMIL, so I wouldn’t expect everyone to be comfortable sharing that with her FMIL. She is seriously the best MIL I could have asked for. She doesn’t have a daughter and when we go out she likes to tell people I’m her daughter! 🙂
Post # 16
You could always text her back with, “Why do you ask?”