- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
Okay, so both myself and my fiance are still fairly young, I’m still in university and he’s supporting the two of us by working. So, as far as wedding money went, we knew both sets of parents would be willing to be involved financially… especially his parents because they’ve always been really generous to us. Shortly after we got engaged, his parents offered to donate $3000 for our wedding and we were thrilled. But, knowing his mother like I do, I knew it would not be a no strings attached kind of situation, I knew she would want to be involved in the planning process as well.
Unfortunately, she is now being really difficult and although we’ve decided on a photographer, my FMIL is refusing to pay the deposit we need to secure the photographer. Although I understand some of her hesitation (as it’s a 50% deposit which amounts to $600) she is running us through the ringer with questions about everything concerning the wedding and is holding off on giving us the money we (as a couple) have already set aside for the photographer of our dreams. Although some may disagree, I feel as though his parents promised us this money, and as such, they should be willing to give it to us as long as our requests are within limits (it’s not like I’m opting to spend the $600 on large pink feathers as accents for the centerpieces…) and I while I feel as though she is entitled to know where the money is going, to withhold it seems a little silly.
I do realize we’ve opened ourselves up to this mess by accepting money from them, but without that money and their support, we most likely wouldn’t be able to afford a wedding anytime soon. So although part of me wants to say “fine, keep your money, we’ll do it ourselves”, it’s just not realistic for us. So what I’m wondering is if anyone has suggestions as to how we can deal with this, and with my FMIL (without offending her while keeping in mind that she is EXTREMELY sensitive)?