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    maureen9004    August 2008  

         Hi everyone- my husband's sister in law (I guess she's mine as well..) just had her third child today.

       To try and connect with them (my in-laws and I aren't very close..) I was thinking about sending a gift to the new baby. Anyone have any ideas? They are very religious and traditional. They also already have two children who are 9 and 5- so I'm pretty sure they're set on necessities. Any help would be appreciated.

     
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    aliciareneephotography    4/24/04   New Hampshire

    Food is ALWAYS appreciated--especially if they have three! What were you thinking of, budget-wise? You can do a small token gift, a little outfit, a baby blanket (my kids each have a crib blanket--they LOVE them, and they're so simple and classic).

    If you can, I'd also recommend a small token gift (book, etc.) for each older child.

     
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    maureen9004    August 2008  

    I didn't want to spend over $70.00- food would be great, but it's not an option. I don't know where they live (But I do know we live under 30  minutes away from them!) Maybe an outfit would be a good idea!

        The gifts for the older children are a great idea, but for this situation probably isn't feasible. My husband says BIL gets weird when we buy the kids christmas gifts (I don't typically attend large family gatherings and don't know the kids very well). My husband is deployed so this is coming from me and I'm slightly nervous. I think an outfit is a safe bet though.. hopefully :)

     
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    PirateJenn    June 21, 2011   Denver

    Too bad you don't know where they live because food is the best option! That is the one thing that stuck out to me when people bought us stuff after both our kids were born!

     
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    heathaah    September 2009  

    A gift card maybe?

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    I have three children. Blankets were always appreciated. Babies get messy a lot (spit up, etc.), so I think a nice fleece blanket would be great. You could even make one yourself for not too expensive. I have great no sew blanket instructions, if you want them. You would only need about a yard of material, since it is for a baby. Or you could use more, so it could grow into it. I would say a yard and a half for a toddler.

    Also, mom would appreciate some nice lotion.

     
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    smyley    May 2010  

    If the next older child is 5, I wouldn't be so sure that they are set on the necessities. Sleepers, onesies, blankets, and outfits I'm sure would be much appreciated. Even a gift basket filled with baby goodies would be a great help!

    As far as something for the older kids,its a nice gesture and doesn't have to be anything large at all.

    If you don't know where they live,how will you get a gift to them? Through your inlaws?

     
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    pinkmonkee    5/15/2010   Orange County, California

    It has been 5 years since they have had an infant so maybe they do need some baby things.  Blankets, or onesies might be good.  You also said they are religious  (not sure about the religion) but maybe a child's bible would be a nice gift? You could always have it engraved.  Or maybe go to a store that carries stuff with their religion, usually they have gifts specifically for a new baby.

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    How about something keepsake-y.  I know that the only things that I have left from when I was a baby are a small silver rattle, a little bracelet and a beautiful blanket that someone bought.  Could you do something that was a small token like that, but that would be saved?

     
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    maureen9004    August 2008  

    I'll get the gift to them through my in-laws. I asked for their address and now have it. I'm uncomfortable dropping by their home by myself, they like their privacy. I assume they're pretty seton things because my BIL's wife is the most organized and efficient woman on earth. :)

      I'm thinking about a blanket of some sort and Mrs. DG's advice of something keep sakey. Thank you for the advice! I'm nervous sending a gift and want it to be the right one.

     
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    Toffee    January 15, 2011   Hayden, Id

    I second the suggestion of sending something like a blanket or a child's bible. Something that is meaningful and will be used for a long time. If you get the child's bible, definitely have it engraved, but you don't necessarily have to have your name anywhere on the gift especially if you're nervous about the parents not liking the gift coming from you.

     
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    cannotwait    February 1, 2009   TX

    You could mail them a Schwan's gift card.

     
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    alshv2    6/6/2009   St. Louis

    I love to give classic children's books for new baby presents... I think books are one of those things that can be cherished for years and enjoyed by several members of the family.  That said, a children's bible, as suggested by previous posters, could be a great choice.

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    Ooh, classic children's books are a great idea!

     
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    lynnabby       northeast

    I'd say a gift card or children's books.

     

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