- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
So, we are not TTC yet, but it could be in the next year or so. I absolutely LOVE my MIL, but there is a lot of drama centered around my SFIL. I have had very small problems with him, mostly little comments about our future, but DH on the other hand truly hates him. DH hated him growing up and DH is working for SFIL’s family business, with the SFIL as his boss. SFIL is constantly making awful comments and putting him down, even outside of work when we visit the family. DH is not one to take the comments lightly, but due to it being his boss, he bites his tounge. He is currently looking for employment elsewhere.
This is where the issue comes. He has already said as soon as he finds another job, he will cut out all contact with SFIL and will only see his mother. He has also expressed how when we have a child, his child will especially not have any contact with the step family. He doesn’t like their values and morals (very money and power centered) and does not want our child growing up with them. I fear what this will do to his mom. She is one of the sweetest people ever, but she will only be able to see us and her grandchild if she comes over to our house, or if her husband is gone. I don’t know what this will do to their relationship or to MIL’s relationship with us. He has already told her that this will happen, but I don’t think she realizes how serious he is.
Anyone else with a similar situation? What did you do? This is already causing me some stress and I just hope it doesn’t escalate when I get pregnant.