(Closed) Future SIL begging to be BM? Not even close? Help!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What do I do?
    Tell her off; she has no right to act that way. : (4 votes)
    15 %
    Smile and nod; ignore her poor manners. : (13 votes)
    48 %
    Have fiance handle it; it's his family. : (8 votes)
    30 %
    Something else entirely? : (2 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

    SIL…. Again 

     

    In front of people just nod and smile but any time the wedding comes up you can just make a comment about not having bridesmaids like

    im so glad i decided not to have bridesmaids it makes things so much easier 

    and done. No getting wires crossed.

    Post # 4
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    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    She sounds like a one of those people that lack respect for anyone else and doesn’t hesitate being manipulative to get things the way she wants them.

     

    Personally, I wouldn’t be able to keep from telling her off – probably along the lines of “It’s remarkable how you’re so keen on being part of our wedding considering that we weren’t even invited to yours – despite the fact that you lived in our house… I’ll chose my own bridesmaids when the day comes, please don’t concern yourself”. 

     

    However, I realize that’s not ideal as it seems like your FI had to go through some trouble to patch up his relationship with his brother. So smiling and changing topic might be the best way to deal with it. 

    Post # 6
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    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @faitherfordandtom: How often do you have to see her? Because if she’s really awful, I would just try to minimise contact up until your elopement. 

    Post # 7
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    3050 posts
    Sugar bee

    @faitherfordandtom:  why not just respond saying that you don’t intend to have a bridal party when you decide to get married. No more detail than that but she will drop it perhaps. 

    Post # 10
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    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @faitherfordandtom:  Oh no! Move?! 🙂

    No, but if that’s the case I think I would just reply as suggested earlier “Thanks for your offer, but I don’t intend to have a bridal party the day that we get married”. Alternatively, “I prefer not to talk about wedding arrangements until we’re actually engaged”.

    Post # 11
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    3121 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @faitherfordandtom:  How lame!  I wouldn’t lie to her and say “sure!” when yall are in public because you’re giving other people the illusion that you’re going to.  Fortunately, you can hide behind the elopement and just say that you’re not having a bridal party.  

    She sounds just awful.

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