(Closed) Future SIL

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sara.courtney3:  It sounds like she is a stay at home mom, which is a full time job IMHO. And she is taking classes, which is tough when you have a child to take care of. Some college classes require no work whatsoever, but some are incredibly time consuming. It just depends on what the course is, the department, and the level. Anyways, I think you should cut her some slack. Why not ask if you can come over one night (I assume you live near her) and look through her photos? Use it as a bonding experience. Or invite her, her daughter and her husband over for dinner and have her bring the albums over then. You can look through photos after the meal and pick out your favorites.

Post # 4
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Probably be easier if u asked to go to her house and borrow the books to pull out what u want, and then return the books. If she is too busy, find a way around it.

Post # 6
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Maybe she still isn’t completely over with what happened with the BM dress situation..? I do agree, it doesn’t take forever to pull out a few albums out for you and letting you pick the pictures you need but maybe the previous situation is in the middle. Maybe you two should sit down and talk to see if things are truly okay and if not, work things out. I have to admit, I would be terribly hurt if my brother told me what your FI said to his sister and I probably would still have some feelings hurt which could possibly reflect on you.

Post # 7
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

No one can internet diagnose, but it’s possible she has other problems like depression and low self-esteem; depression can make it difficult to even get out of bed, or do necessary things like go to the bank.  There are plenty of anxiety disorders that make that difficult as well.  Not saying that makes it okay, but it could help you figure her out if she does have any of those problems.

You could try being the bigger person and offer to take her out to lunch and pick up the pictures when you pick her up or something like that;  you could ask if anything’s wrong and if there’s anything you can do to help if there is something bugging her.

Or you could just live with her the way she is.   I don’t think you’re being dramatic, but I do think this is a situation where you need to choose to be the adult if you want to get things done.

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