Post # 1
My FMIL just told me that my FSIL is going to wear a floor-length silk champagne colored dress. Does this sound a little inappropriate to anyone or is it just me. She got married 2 years ago, maybe she’s not over being the bride? Here’s a pic of the dress (but silk & champagne)
Post # 3
I would have a problem with it. I know that’s not helpful, but I can’t help it. Although if your dress is white white then it could be ok. You still have plenty of time until your wedding, maybe you two could go dress shopping together? I gave my family and his family a color scheme. I said it was for the pictures and I’m very gald I did.
Good luck. And my mom almost ordered a dress the exact same color as mine, she just didn’t think about it. It is possible your FSIL isn’t thinking she is crossing a line.
Post # 4
That seems really inappropriate to me. It would be different if it were a short, casual dress. Hopefully your FI or FMIL can talk her out of it?
Post # 5
Hm. That’s a little too bridal for my taste. Is your wedding a formal, black-tie event? I mean, in that case it seems like a floor length gown would be okay, but it’s strange that she would choose something so close to ivory…since she’s been the bride before, it’d seem she’d be pretty clear on etiquette like this…perhaps she’s not consciously trying to upstage you, but she might still want to attract attention. Anyway, I’d make your reservations known to your FMIL and she can hint to FSIL to get something a little more appropriately colored.
Post # 6
I think if your wedding is quite formal it’s not a problem. If it’s not, maybe someone could talk to her about it being simply too fancy, without having the awkward "you look like you want to be the bride" talk.
Post # 7
What the french? the other ladies that have commented are much more understanding than me. If anyone shows up in ivory, cream, champagne, etc, they should expect not to be in any pictures. I’m being petty and childish about it and i dont care…maybe you can ask her nicely is she’d be more comfortable in a different color?
Post # 8
WOW i’d be pissed. not a particularly helpful comment, I know, but I did want to chime in and show some support! WAY inappropriate.
Post # 9
I’m non-plussed by the dress. If it’s a formal wedding, then I think it would be fine. But if it’s more casual, then I would be more concerned that she’s overdressing so much than with the color.
Post # 10
I’m a fairly relaxed bride to be– so the dress itself doesn’t bother me. I can see where ordering it in champagne could push the line a bit. I would call her up and talk to her… maybe it didn’t occur to her that it would be offensive to you– or maybe (just maybe) this particular champagne is more gold or brown?! I like the pink in the picture alot– you could alway encoruage her to go for a different color. Good Luck!
Post # 11
If your FSIL was still in her teens or really young or anything, then I would have extended the benefit of the doubt that she just doesn’t know. But she got married two years ago. She KNOWS that its not ok to show up in something bride-y. I would be pissed off for sure, it would not be a good scene. I like to think I’m fairly laid back but I would lose it if my FSIL pulled this. Your options, IMHO, are to have someone else talk to her like your MOH or FI.
My MOH was married about a year and a half ago, she had an Indian wedding and wore a red lengha…and her SIL who had gotten married three months before came to the wedding in HER red wedding lengha, complete with all the jewelry she wore on the day of as well. It would be like another girl coming to your wedding in wedding dress, veil and clutching a bouquet.
Post # 12
Personally I don’t think that’s an appopriate dress for your FSIL to wear to your wedding — way too close to a wedding dress IMHO. (Has anyone seen the episode of The Office about Phyllis’s wedding? That dress looks a lot like the one Kelly wore to Phyllis’s wedding!) But it’s probably not worth starting a battle over. Even if she’s trying to relive her bridal days, it’s not her wedding, and everyone there will know who’s the bride no matter what FSIL is wearing!
Post # 13
I know I’m in the minority here, but I honestly don’t care if other people (except for maybe the mothers) wear some shade of white. I can definitely see how it might bother people, but I figure I could wear a gunny sack and people will STILL know I’m the bride. But that’s just me.
If you’re wearing white and it’s a deeper champagne I wouldn’t worry about it. If the colors are closer than that and the style of dress is appropriate (formality wise) I would have someone (her mom or maybe even your FI) suggest a different color. Brown would look lovely and it’s likely to go with her coloring if champagne looks good.
Post # 14
OMG melissa8 that was my first thought exactly about Kelly in the Office. I think all brides should watch that episode 🙂
Post # 15
I see why you would be concerned, but I think that she’s just going to look silly. Everyone will know that you are the bride, not her, and if the wedding isn’t black tie, then she will just look painfully overdressed. I hate conflict and confrontation, so if it were me, I would just let her wear what she wants and know that she’s going to look silly.
Post # 16
I don’t think it’s the most appropriate choice, but probably not worth making a stink over. I am sure that it will raise eyebrows with other guests (perhaps catty, but true!).