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I don't even know where to start.   I am just baffled by this and need to vent.

My brother's FI is a bit of a penny-pincher.   No, She is actually a HUGE tight wad!   They have not set a wedding date because she can't find anyone allow them to have a wedding and reception for free. (as in NOTHING comes out of her pocket! not one single cent)

Anyway-- back to my vent.  My brother called me last night and  we had the following coversation:

HIM: "FI wants to know if you and your FI want to come over for a picnic on Monday."

ME: "Sure, we can end our trip early and come home from the beach in the AM hours instead of waiting to leave."

HIM: "Great.   "Could you please bring Hamburgers, hot dogs, chicken and shrimp to cook on the grill?"  

ME: "You mean enough for us to eat?"

HIM: "No, could you bring all of the meat?   We can pick up the bread.   She also needs someone to either make or bring potato salad, coleslaw, pasta salads and dessert.  What else would you bring?  Oh, and she said bring Beer too."

ME: " let me see if I have this right.  You and FI are hosting a picnic on July 5th because fireworks can be seen from your house and we don't have to go to the park.   Her ENTIRE family will be there, FI and I, and you and her?"  

HIM:  "YES"

ME:  "So you want FI and I to bring hot dogs, hamburgers, chicken, shrimp, potoato salad, coleslaw, pasta salad and dessert for 40+ people.  Plus you want us to end our weekend early to attend"

HIM: "Yes, and don't forget the beer. and could you pick up a bushel of crabs too"

ME: " have you lost your ever loving mind?   I will attend, I will bring food for us, but I am not supplying you with everything YOU need to feed HER family for a picnic SHE wants to host.  It will cost me well over $300.00 for all of that."

HIM:" But you just said you would come and she has been calling her family telling them to be here.   What are we suppose to do now?'  

At this point I asked to speak to his FI.   I repeated everything that he has said she wanted me to supply.   She agreed to what I had said and when I asked her what she and her family were going to supply she said, "OH, the paper goods, the chips and the bread,"   I told her that we would be staying at the beach and catching dinner on the way home and not be able to attend.   She started yelling about how I was going to ruin her family picnic by backing out now and what was she suppose to feed them all.    I told her to start calling those 40 family members and advise them it would be a pot luck and they needed to bring a dish.   She got so mad at me for that and said, "That's inappropriate.   I can't ask my guest to bring a dish.   That's tacky."  

UM... WHAT?????   but asking me to supply all of the food for HER picnic is OK?   PLEASE.... Sorry just needed to vent a little.

All.. By the time I hung up, I was literally on the floor from laughing at the strange turn in the conversation.    I have no idea if Bro finds it odd or not.   Seriously, I think he just has his head in the sand and lets her do what she wants.   THAT is not my problem.

@jaylii9 -- don't laugh.   My FI and I got engaged 5 weeks after Bro and FI.   MY FI and I were ready to jump on the planning wagon and get things rolling, so I called BRo and said, "have ya'll set a date?   I don't want to step on toes but we want to plan and get married."   Bro said no.   So, FI and I started planning.   When I realized how big our wedding and reception was going to be I called Bro and FI and actually asked if they wanted to share in the reception since they had been talking destinational wedding.   BRo and FI said, "Sure... As long as it doesn't cost us."   HAHAHAHA.   UM... She wants to invite her family and friends... its gonna cost ya!

Oh, lordy... If I don't laugh about her insane notions I would be beating my head against a wall daily.  

She just called me to tell me that she would not be attending my and my FI wedding because she has to work.    Forgive me, but is today not July 1st? OUr wedding is Sept. 25th... Why can she not get someone to cover for her?   DUH!   Oh well.

omg! what a crazy!!!! that's just plain nuts is she going to ask you to pay for their wedding too?

please don't think I am handling it well.   I have ranted and raved about it after I stopped laughing at her.(this the reason for this post-- I had to get it out there)   I seriously could not believe that she asked me (told me?) to bring all the food.   

I am not totally sure why my brother didn't see the oddness of this request.  I don't know if he has suddenly forgotten how to think  for himself or what, but it is strange and sad.   I did call my mom and tell her what was going on.   She just sighed and said,"Oh, I hope he realizes that this is as good as it get and it doesn't suddenly improve when the other ring goes on." 

I am not thrilled that she will not be at our wedding.  I think it is extremely rude (and tacky to use her words!) to not plan NOW for her future inlaws.   FI and I set our wedding date in JULY 2009!!! it's not like this date just popped up.

She is not normally a vindictive person.   I think she was just rasied by wolves ( and I do NOT mean the Jacob Black kind).    She is just very self absorbed (? not even sure that is the right wording).   She is a penny pincher and is always looking for ways to save a buck.  However, save a buck normally doesn't come at the expense of others.   I think this time is just a really bad brain lapse for her.   At least that is what I am hoping for anyway.

Stay at the beach!  Don't go, it's definitely not worth your time, especially since I would imagine her family is probably just as bad.