I got a nice message from my future sister in law today regarding my personal wedding blog. She is my fiancee's brother's wife, so there is no blood relation.
From Her:
Excuse me... but your RSVP rant blog shows the true person you are. If you were frustrated with a lack of reply, you should have vented to your husband-to-be... NOT on a website you created FOR YOUR GUESTS TO SEE! Further, there are other posts you have made, which are offensive to brides who may have particularly appreciated an attribute in their wedding or wedding-to-be, which you bashed on, and that is plain rude and tactless... This is just my opinion, the girl who proudly wore a tiara on her wedding day.....
Enjoy your day...........
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My response to this is that I am well aware of what I posted and it was not directed to her to or anyone specifically. It is my personal blog (not my wedding site) with my opinions posted on the world wide web. I did respond back to her, but in a civil manner and also thanked her for reading my blog. What I neglected to tell her was that she has been rude in the past to my fiancee, his parents, and myself. My RSVP rant in my blog is similar to what most brides go through, and I did try to contact her husband via email, and my fiancee did leave several messages for him regarding the RSVP, to which they never responded to. My mother in law ended up contacting her son (which incidentally took several tries). All I wanted was a timely response for my rsvp.
So bees, do you have any similar in-law or family problems that have risen?
Oh you bet i do! My fiances brother is the rudest person i have ever met and his girlfriend twice as rude. She has started nasty rumors around our small town about me and he has called me fat numerous times and other rude comments. So i understand....
How did she get a hold of your personal blog? If there's a link on your wedding website you should take it down. Be prepared, she will probably spread the word...and as free as you are to vent...it CAN alienate your guests....the last thing you want is everybody thinking you're a b*tch on your wedding day or people not showing up because they feel attacked. JMHO.
If there was a link from your website to your blog, she's right. You shouldn't post anything like that where your guests can read, because you will come off looking like a biatch. V's right, she doesn't sound like the type to gossip, so I would be prepared for a little backlash. I would confine your comments to a place like her where nobody knows who you are! :) Good luck!
thanks everyone for your inputs. she's been drama even before fiancee and i got engaged 2 years ago, i just hope she doesn't go crazy at my wedding and cause a scene. fiancee and i are still hoping she doesn't show up to the wedding.
Mine isn't a crazy sister in law, it's a crazy cousin in law and she made a big stink about not being able to bring her three kids to a night wedding and a late night reception - and she thinks she's "showing us all!" and isn't coming to the wedding. We're going to be more than happy she isn't there. It's all you can hope for. But if she does show up, ignore her. You don't need that on your day.
thanks jma19, when we were up for her wedding last year, my fiancee was in their wedding party (a groomsman - he really didn't want to be a groomsman but his brother asked him to be one), and she did her best to snub my fiancee and myself throughout the entire wedding. if she does show up for ours, i'll give her the same courtesy she gave at their wedding.
I got a
nicemessage from my future sister in law today regarding my personal wedding blog. She is my fiancee's brother's wife, so there is no blood relation.From Her:
Excuse me... but your RSVP rant blog shows the true person you are. If you were frustrated with a lack of reply, you should have vented to your husband-to-be... NOT on a website you created FOR YOUR GUESTS TO SEE! Further, there are other posts you have made, which are offensive to brides who may have particularly appreciated an attribute in their wedding or wedding-to-be, which you bashed on, and that is plain rude and tactless... This is just my opinion, the girl who proudly wore a tiara on her wedding day.....
Enjoy your day...........
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My response to this is that I am well aware of what I posted and it was not directed to her to or anyone specifically. It is my personal blog (not my wedding site) with my opinions posted on the world wide web. I did respond back to her, but in a civil manner and also thanked her for reading my blog. What I neglected to tell her was that she has been rude in the past to my fiancee, his parents, and myself. My RSVP rant in my blog is similar to what most brides go through, and I did try to contact her husband via email, and my fiancee did leave several messages for him regarding the RSVP, to which they never responded to. My mother in law ended up contacting her son (which incidentally took several tries). All I wanted was a timely response for my rsvp.
So bees, do you have any similar in-law or family problems that have risen?
posted by pannedesal Wannabee: 4 posts 5 months agoOh you bet i do! My fiances brother is the rudest person i have ever met and his girlfriend twice as rude. She has started nasty rumors around our small town about me and he has called me fat numerous times and other rude comments. So i understand....
posted by younginlove Newbee: 19 posts 5 months agoHow did she get a hold of your personal blog? If there's a link on your wedding website you should take it down. Be prepared, she will probably spread the word...and as free as you are to vent...it CAN alienate your guests....the last thing you want is everybody thinking you're a b*tch on your wedding day or people not showing up because they feel attacked. JMHO.
Good Luck!
posted by V Helper bee: 396 posts 5 months agothere was a link somewhere, but it's since been deleted.
posted by pannedesal Wannabee: 4 posts 5 months agoIf there was a link from your website to your blog, she's right. You shouldn't post anything like that where your guests can read, because you will come off looking like a biatch. V's right, she doesn't sound like the type to gossip, so I would be prepared for a little backlash. I would confine your comments to a place like her where nobody knows who you are! :) Good luck!
posted by KateMW Busy bee: 721 posts 5 months agothanks everyone for your inputs. she's been drama even before fiancee and i got engaged 2 years ago, i just hope she doesn't go crazy at my wedding and cause a scene. fiancee and i are still hoping she doesn't show up to the wedding.
posted by pannedesal Wannabee: 4 posts 5 months agoMine isn't a crazy sister in law, it's a crazy cousin in law and she made a big stink about not being able to bring her three kids to a night wedding and a late night reception - and she thinks she's "showing us all!" and isn't coming to the wedding. We're going to be more than happy she isn't there. It's all you can hope for. But if she does show up, ignore her. You don't need that on your day.
posted by jma19 Helper bee: 481 posts 5 months agothanks jma19, when we were up for her wedding last year, my fiancee was in their wedding party (a groomsman - he really didn't want to be a groomsman but his brother asked him to be one), and she did her best to snub my fiancee and myself throughout the entire wedding. if she does show up for ours, i'll give her the same courtesy she gave at their wedding.
posted by pannedesal Wannabee: 4 posts 5 months ago