Post # 1
I am getting married in less than a month and my future sister in law has gotten me so stressed and upset I don’t know what to do. We were very close until my fiance told her we got engaged. She got upset because she “wasn’t in the loop” and didn’t know about it before hand. I tried explaining to her that I PROPOSED to him and that he wasn’t even in the loop LOL.
Then there was the dress! I made an appointment to go to David’s Bridal with my sister (my MOH), my mom and her on a Sunday. Well I don’t deal with crowds well and started to get overwhelmed so I asked my sister to come with me one night and look around, well wouldn’t you know it I found my dress that night and bought it, FSIL got pissed that I didn’t call her. I told her I asked my sister to come with me, her response? “you should have called me” She is also claiming that when we went to pick out dresses for them that I “threw” a dress at her and told her to find her size… Totally did not happen that way. I picked out 2 and had them try them both on to decide which looked better…
At my bridal shower she made such a scene about the bridemaid dresses that my sister had to go on line and show my other guests what the dresses looked like and prove that they were not horrible.
Now she’s all upset because there won’t be kids in the limo on the way to the church. I have said that from the beginning but now after I reiterated it the other day she is having a fit, her daughter (our flower girl) can’t wait at the church even though her father is a groomsman and their families will be there. My nephews are our ring bearers and are younger than her daughter and my brother in law who is also a groomsman is bringing them to the church with him. I’m not talking about hours it will be 1 hour!
My FH has had it with her and unfortuately his entire family over their actions or lack of interest in our wedding. I am actually at the point of wanting her to do something else just so I can throw her out of the party. I hate feeling this way towards anyone esp someone who will become family but I have lost all respect for her.
Has anyone else had this happen to them or something similar?
Post # 3
I am in such a similar position but my wedding isn’t until August… so I have several more months of dealing with the FSIL! lol… I feel really bad for you, but just know you are not alone! As of right now, my fiancee has NOT asked his sister to be in the wedding. Her and I were pretty close until he proposed to me and it was like the flip of a switch! We grew up together too! Our stories are a little different but feelings are the same toward the FSIL! So if you ever need to vent you let me know! lol… just try not to let her get to you. Its your special day and you should not let ANYONE bring you down girl. I feel bad that we have not included his sister in the WP yet, but I dont want someone in the wedding that isnt supportive. Keep your chin up! *hugs*
Post # 4
I’m sorry you’re going through such drama with your FSIL. I would try to keep your calm until the wedding is over, and then hopefully things will return to normal. It sounds like she has a lot of wedding-related issues herself, and your wedding is bringing them out of her. Stay strong!
Post # 5
I know exactly how you feel and I feel bad for anyone that has to deal with something like this. I understand that when you marry someone you are “marrying the whole family” but personally I don’t agree with this. My FI’s sister is horrible, we were friends up until my FI and I started getting serious and we got into a huge fight and haven’t actually spoken to eachother since then and that was almost a year ago. I refuse to let her or her presence ruin my day, just remember that it is YOUR day, not hers and no matter how many tantrums she throws your FI loves you and wants it to be all about YOU! 🙂 Hopefully once the wedding is over she will calm her nerves and get over it and if she doesn’t then don’t stress, you can never make everyone happy!
Post # 6
Why can’t the flower girl ride in the limo? That seems to be a fairly easy concession.
Some people are just difficult. The important thing is, your FI is on your side.
Post # 7
@Tatum:We are having my FI 4 nieces in the wedding plus my 2 nephews, so even if I wanted to it wouldn’t be fair to take one and not the others. Having said that, I might have been willing to make some concessions if she was willing to me meet me half way on anything, but when she told me she didn’t want to walk down the aisle with a groomsman (her husband actually) because it was HER time to shine, I realized what I was going to have to deal with.
Thank you everyone for your kind words and support, it makes me feel better that I’m not the only one…