Post # 1
How close are you with you future sister-in-laws? Whether its your Fiance sister or Fiance brother’s wife. Would you consider including them in your bridal party? I love hearing about in-law stories as mine seem to get more and more interesting by the day!
Post # 3
Yes, I am including my FSIL! I was in her wedding a year ago as well. We weren’t that close in high school because I think she still saw R as “her little brother” and was rarely home. But since she graduated from college, she’s been around a lot more and we have our love of animals in common.
Funny thing… way way waaay back when R and I first started dating, we were 14 and he wasn’t supposed to have a girlfriend. His parents had no clue, because we usually hung out in groups at first, or just went to the movies, and Future Sister-In-Law would drive him there. So she just drops in all nonchalantly one day, “R is dating A!” for fun. Definitely shocked the FILs! She was also the one to break the news that R was buying a ring…at someone else’s wedding!
Post # 4
I would definitely ask my future SIL to be in the bridal party, but I’m sure she would decline because she is a bit shy. So instead I would ask her to play her violin for us at some point in the day. She’s an amazing violinist and would much rather do that then be in a dress all day running around being in pictures and such.
Post # 5
I did not ask mine (FI’s sister) and I am regretful. But, it’s too late to turn back. I assumed that she wouldn’t want to be involved (has 4 kids, one will be 10 mos for wedding) and I am not close to her. I’ve been around her about 10 times total. but, I learned that she said she thought I was going to ask her which devastated me. I just assumed, and I was wrong. I get kinda sick thinking about it…
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
I’m super-close to my SIL, but I didn’t include her as a bridesmaid. Mostly because I wanted to keep our bridal party very small. But I did include her as a reader, and I’m so glad I did!
Post # 7
I asked 2/3 of my FSIL’s, the ones I’m closest to and see frequently. Fi has a pretty close family, and wouldn’t consider NOT having them in!
Post # 8
Fiance has 3 sisters and I am including all 3 FSILs in my wedding. At first I was only planning to include 1 because I am closest to her, she lived with us for a summer and the other 2 are both older and I dont see often. Then there was drama behind it so I included the other 2 as well. Its not that I didnt want to include the other 2 its just that I wanted to keep my bridal party small (4) but now were at 6. It doesnt really make a difference I guess!
Post # 9
I am not including my Future Sister-In-Law in the wedding party, because FH is not asking his brother or BIL to me groomsmen, so it would be weird to have her and not the other sibling. My Bridesmaids are just my 2 sisters, so no one is offended.
I probably “get” her more than any of my future in-laws though … We have quite a bit in common, but she is almost 10 years older than me, and has a 13 year old son …
Post # 11
i am not very close to my Future Sister-In-Law at all, but after many sleepless nights (literally..i went back and forth on this!) i decided to ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man as an “olive branch” of sorts. i’m hoping this gesture will make us closer down the road.
Also, Fiance only has 1 brother and 1 sister and his brother is the best man, and it was important to him that his sister was included in the Bridal Party.
Post # 12
How about if their dating and not married yet but are in serious relationships and are headed towards marriage in the next few years? If these girls are going to be my future sister-in laws I would love to include them (especially b/c I don’t have sisters of my own) looking back on pictures down the line and knowing that they are still a part of my life. Including them without being engaged/married could mean that they could break up before, after or around the time of the wedding and then if that’s the case it just seems pointless and a problem to replace them or be stuck with an uneven wedding party! I wish I had a crystal ball so I could see into the future…but then you would miss out on life’s greatest surprises.
Post # 13
R and I were just dating when Future Sister-In-Law made me her Bridesmaid or Best Man. 🙂 I really appreciated it, because I feel like I am part of the family. It’s nice to have others recognize that.
Post # 14
@Crazy–Ohhh, I thought you meant Future Sister-In-Law as in your FI’s sisters. But now I am gathering that you mean your FBIL’s girlfriend? No, I would definitely not include her in my bridal party….not unless they were engaged. My Future Sister-In-Law (my Fi’s SISTER) is in my bridal party. Her and I have become extremely close, I go as far as to say she’ll be a best friend of mine for life. Love her. We’re close in age, we look alike (gross, I know), and she’s so much fun.
Post # 15
I asked my twin FSIL’s to be in my wedding. I actually asked one to be my Maid/Matron of Honor because she and I kind of have a special bond. I’ve known her as long as I’ve known my Fiance. Sometimes I feel really bad I didn’t ask the other to also be Maid/Matron of Honor but we just arent that close and I dont want to ask her because I just dont feel like she should be it. She’s not mad or anything….at least that I know of. Since we have been engaged for nearly a year when the lull came and no one talked to me about the wedding I regretted asking them because I didn’t think they liked me anymore or wanted anything to do with the wedding. I’m okay now and I understand that their families are top priority not our wedding. Overall I’m very glad I asked both girls to be in the wedding. I’m even more excited my best friend is flying in from GERMANY to be in the wedding! It’s going to be amazing seeing her again (its been 5 years!)
Post # 16
@VirginiaMaire—Yes, that is correct. I meant my FBIL’s gf, just to clarify any confusion. Sorry, I must have worded it strangely…such a long day!