- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor
My fiance’s dad got married about five years ago, and his wife drives me crazy! She was in no way a mother to my fiance but she thinks she needs to be front and center in everything wedding. I wish I could just tell her to butt out, and that she can micromanage all she wants when her own kids gets married, but this is MY wedding, not hers!
Recently she’s been bugging me about registering, something which I haven’t really gotten around to considering I don’t place too much importance on gifts. She continues to insist that I register for china, even though I keep telling her that it’s not my thing. Then my grandma offered to give me her china as part of her wedding gift to us, which I accepted on the condition that she keep it until I have a house with enough room for it. Stepmother heard about this and says, “but you still neeeed to register for your owwwwn china!”
Now, this is where I finally got through to her. I said to her, quite honestly, that I had no idea what I would do with that much china. She says, “Well I have 4 sets of china, from my grandma, mom, my first wedding, etc. I guess I really really love dishes” and I said well, everyone has certain things that they like. and I felt like, for at least that one moment, that she realized that I did not really appreciate her pushing her own preferences on me instead of listening to what I want.
Anyway, Just felt like getting that out there. I’ve really had to work at letting all of her criticisms bounce off, becuase rationally I know that I have no reason to feel bad about not changing what I want to make her happy, but it has been hard. Everything just tends to stick in my skin and needle in. What do you think?