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@Aubergold: I haven't heard of her either...

So I am guessing that this is the reason why she was banned:

Post to the boards to promote their website or businesses (including using signature lines, watermarked photos, or posting links to their business or blog, including in the monthly Share Your Blogs thread) or industry (e.g. a planner posting about how hiring a wedding planner essential to the success of a wedding, or a DJ trash talking iPod receptions).

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Sounds a bit like a catch 22 to me, and by that same logic, LBphotography that has the sticky at the top of this forum should be banned too.  So from now on all the pro's better promote the momtographers! or BAN!  (that was a joke....or is it?).  This all happened so quick, I am not sure there were any warnings, but this is speculation on my part.

I don't think BEEM was promoting her business in any way.  I also thought the conversation in the thread in question was a healthy one, with varying opinions.  We all don't have to agree.

I am not defending BEEM, just explaining things how I perceived them.  Sometimes, I think people on these forums need a thicker skin, and to not take things so personal.  I am on many forums, but I noted on the predominantly female ones (wedding forums) other posters tend to sugar coat things and walk around the topic at hand.  BEEM was a straight shooter, she may of come across rude, but her posts were generally factual, not just based on her opinions.   A select few people seemed to really dislike her, but I honestly don't think she was out to get anyone, but help educate people.

Although you may not agree or like the info she posted, it wasn't  in anyway bad advice and definitely worth taking a step back and considering.

@PurpleUnicorn:  There were times, when there were no other option to the OP, BEEM gave advice on what to look for in a craigslist photographer.  It think it comes down to bad luck and no knowing the rules.... (I didn't know this either).

I've never really had many encounters with BeeM but her comment today was a little rude, I agreed with her but I could see how it could be taken pretty badly.  On another note, I have seen WAY worse comments from particular members and it never seems like anything is done about it. Sometimes I feel like there are sensitive topics to certain people that will get someone banned in a hot second, and then there are other topics where bees make hurtful comments and it is overlooked cause its not as important to someone. I guess thats what happens though when your mods are only human lol. No matter how hard someone tries its nearly impossible to be unbiased. *not bashing on the mods, I think the mods do the best job they can!*

@pinkelephantblues:  I was honestly suprised that they allow vendors on here period (the knot does not).  If they do, I am REALLY suprised they let you select your username to be your business name....but you can't post a link to your business?  Hmmmmm.

Anyway, yes the more I re-read what BEEM posted and think about this, it's all pretty silly.  My guess is someone got really offended and reported a ton of her posts to the point that the mods banned her.  Who knows.  I agree worse things have happened with no banning in the past.  If anything, maybe a warning was in order if the mod's thought she was breaking the rules.  I never saw that page on the rules until now.

@MrsNeutrino:  I remember that thread.  I think sometimes people here (who are the usually the consumer) don't want to hear what the other side has to say.  I am not saying she wasn't rude, I honestly didn't follow that post enough to feel one way or another.

@daydreamwanderer: Sockpuppeting?  I had to look that one up for myself....lol. 

"A sockpuppet is an online identity used for purposes of deception. The term—a reference to the manipulation of a simple hand puppet made from a sock—originally referred to a false identity assumed by a member of an internet community who spoke to, or about, himself while pretending to be another person.[1] The term now includes other uses of misleading online identities, such as those created to praise, defend or support a third party or organization"----------------------------------------------------------

If this is the case, I think the banning of BeeM was ill warranted.  BEEM did not create a profile and harp on a bandwagon.  Look at the post count, look at the well thought out very length posts helping people or providing information when asked.  There may of been a few posts that led one to believe this, but this certainly wasn't the posters intention or purpose of being here 99% of the other time.

Also, you hear other pro's on here with usernames of XYZPHOTOGRAPHY respond to posts and say "I am a professional photographer and in our business we would never do something like this, blah blah blah blah."  Isn't this meeting the def of sockpuppeting by praising themself?   Shouldn't they be banned for this?  The rules need to be more black and white IMO

And for all the other's (including myself), why are you all assuming BeeM was a girl?  :)  Thoughts?

@USER876: It's not that we don't want to hear your professional opinions, we don't want your critiques unless they are specifically requested. The OP today asked for non-pro pics and explained her situation. She obviously had thought out the pros and cons of the situation and felt comfortable in her decision. She was looking for other's people experiences, not a negatively expressed professional critique of other bride's pictures (which they loved!).

As for why we all think you are a woman, it could be because this is a wedding planning site where the main participants are in fact women, and those who are not typically make it known through their name (ie Mr. Tattoo, Mr. Bee, etc).

@Carnival_Bride:  I was pertaining to HER not me, for the male / female thing.  I don't think every male on here has a Mr. in front of the name nor is it required, and absolutely shouldn't be assumed.

@ neutrino.....  I don't buy it....but who knows You really think BEEM came back on here and responded to this post as the first thing she did?

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/my-coworkers-think-im-farting-really-loudly-but-im-really-not