Post # 1
So maybe I’m dumb, but I just found out why it is that the catholic church is so opposed to performing a ceremony outside.
You know how all Catholic churces are named after a saint? Well apparently they name themselves after a saint because they actually have a piece of that saint on the altar.
In order to perform any ceremony they would have to carry that saint out of the church to the place they are performing the ceremony, that’s why they’re so opposed to it.
Makes way more sense now that I found that out. Did anyone else that’s Catholic know that?
Post # 3
I didnt know that was the reasoning behind it – but i did know that you cant get married outside and that made me super sad 🙁 it was important for my husband and his family for us to be married IN the church but i find that really interesting about the saints!
Post # 4
I think you have a bit of misinformation. While some churches do have relics, not all do. Think of all the “Our Lady” parishes – they don’t all have a relic of the Virgin Mary.
Post # 5
This helps explain the Church’s reasoning: http://www.catholicweddinghelp.com/questions/outdoor-wedding.htm
“No one would argue against the beauty of a natural setting; after all, creation reveals the presence of the Creator in a powerful way. But Catholics remember that Jesus Christ promised to continue to be present whenever his friends gathered in his name. The church building is the “house” in which the followers of Jesus do this on a regular basis to celebrate weddings and funerals and baptisms and confirmations and reconciliations and anointings of the sick—in short, all the most important events of their lives. For Catholics, it makes sense to begin a new household in this sacred house. Doing so symbolizes the new family’s connection with the wider community of believers—not only those present at the wedding, but also all the parishioners who gather in that space, and ultimately, the universal Church.”
Post # 6
I have never heard that, and in all honestly it sounds like a bit of urban legend to me.
I have heard that some priests will do outdoor ceremonies if you have the approval of the local diocese (which RARELY if ever happens). My church refused to do an outdoor ceremony, so we are being married by my fiance’s Lutheran pastor. FI obviously is not Catholic, and did not want to get married in a Catholic church due to the whole “contract” ordeal when you marry a non-Catholic. I would have liked to have been married by a priest, but we had to compromise. At least I get my beautiful outdoor ceremony!
Post # 7
@KitKatNYC: LOL Imagine how many itty bitty pieces one would need? The number of “St. Mary” and “Our Lady” churches around the world has got to be in the thousands.
Post # 8
I don’t think that’s true, but the information from @KitKatNYC is certainly helpful. My church has a small grotto area where they will allow outdoor weddings, but that is because it’s on the church property. Weddings on the beach, etc. just won’t get approved.
Post # 9
@Jeannine @ Small Chic:
I was told this by the reverend who is marrying us. He said that when they say “St. John” there isn’t just 1 “st. john” there are lots of saints with the same name. Because I thought the same thing.
I couldn’t afford to get married in the Catholic church, that was my other factor. Because my reception location was too far from “our church” I went to check and see if I could just get married in the catholic church in the same town as the reception. I was told it would cost me
A. $700 to use the church in that town
B. I needed to get my own priest from my own church to come to that church because they needed their own priest for their own parishiners…. um huh? Probably another $350 for our own priest to travel to that church
C. Cost of transportation. Now I would need limos to take people everywhere… est. $1000+ for that
the financial burden of all that was way to much on top of the hassle. So I just decided to do everything at the reception location and get a reverend to perform a catholic ceremony.
Post # 10
@posh_princess:I’m confused and interested– based on your final paragraph–so you *have* successfully gotten a Catholic priest to perform a Catholic ceremony at your reception site? (not a church?)
Post # 11
My family friend wanted an outside ceremony so she got married Friday night @ church (Catholic) with her immediate family and then had her outdoor short ceremony (15 mins) and reception immediately following (normal wedding) on Saturday.