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I'm freaking out more lately and mentioning Moose a ton more. It's because I'm getting super close to week 34, when Moose died, in my pregnancy with Wombat. I guess it's my way of getting through this, so please deal with me. I don't mean to be a topic stopper or dramatic, it's just people in my life seem to want to forget about Moose and I won't let them. So sorry. I don't mean to be a downer; I just am freaking out and wanting this pregnancy to be over so I know whether I get to take Wombat home or add another urn to our mantel.
@TheFutureMcBride: You know what.... that is exactly what we are here for.
You can vent, stress, cry, get upset, be nervous, be scared, be excited, be happy, be overjoyed, be confused.... you can be all those things with us.
XOXO we are here for you.
@FutureMcBride you're in a good place where people support you so rant and rave we'll all still listen. I doubt people want to forget about Moose but I am sure they are aware of the timing as well and don't want to bring it up to you? I hope you stay positive for Wombat, best of luck!!
Thanks! And you'd be surprised at the comments people give me.
<3
I'm not usually on these boards as I'm not ttc or expecting, but I just wanted to wish you all the best with Wombat and send you some virtual internet hugs.
(((FutureMcBride))) Don't worry about being a downer! There's nothign wrong with talking about Moose here. Anyone in your place would be worried too.
I'm praying for you. :)
Freak out all you want; I doubt anyone here is going to judge you. It must be really tough watching that 34 week mark get closer and closer. :( You're at 26 weeks, now, right?
@TheFutureMcBride: We're all here for you. I just know everything is just fine with 'lil Wombat. :) Hang in there. I'm sure it is difficult, but everything is going to be just fine!!! :)
We are here for you :) Stay positive as much as you can. I know it might be hard sometimes, but that's when you can vent and get it all out! I don't think anyone is judging you so don't worry :)
@Mrs. Spring: No, I'm 27 weeks today.
@Jenn23: FYI: I'm so cheering for you and your hubby. Every pregnant bee in hiding, I hope it's you.
You know, if what happened to you happened to me, I am not sure I would have the courage to try again. I mean, losing a pregnancy is awful under any circumstances, but to get so close, (and know that if you do get pregnant again, you will have to spend almost the entire duration worried about it) and have no reason why is a special kind of hell. I totally admire your strength- post away!
@TheFutureMcBride:Yes please vent! People have a tendancy to always want to focus on the positive (Wombat) and feel uncomfortable with more painful topics (Moose). We are here for you - and while we all eagerly await Wombat's arrival, this is a great place to keep Moose's memory alive and discuss your fears.
@TheFutureMcBride: I'm right there with all the others. :) Vent, post, mention Moose as much as you want! We're here to support each other, right? ;) Ignore everyone who is being negative towards you and focus on what's important to YOU.
You've got awesome doctors and I know you're doing everything you can to take care of you and Wombat. :) But, come on, how can you NOT panic and start freaking out?!?!?
:)
much hugs, love, and warm vibes sent your way!!!
@regberadaisy: You're so not callous and unsupportive! I'm posting this because I've just noticed how much I mention Moose when it's not necessary to the topic.
@TheFutureMcBride: I admire you so much. I love hearing about Moose and encourage the stories. That's what we're all here for! :)
@TheFutureMcBride: My thoughts and prayers are with you! I know it's hard to get excited about a new baby when you lost one so close to the end. I've been through something very similar and some people just don't understand. Some people just don't understand wanting to keep a memory alive, also they may not know how to approach the subject with you for fear of upsetting you. You just need to focus on the positive things about Wombat and the now moments. Thinking about future things might make you worry even more. Just live in the now and let the little one in there know how much you love him/her and how much you are looking forward to meeting him/her. Moose will be right there with you as Wombat enters the world! You can always come to us for support and to talk about anything.
@TheFutureMcBride: Have you ever noticed how many times I post about about Addie in a day? Maybe it's not obvious to everyone else the way it is to me, lol, but it's A LOT. I work her name into like 95% of my posts.
It's ok. You have Moose; you think about Moose a lot (especially as Wombat's getting bigger); you're posting what you're thinking about. Don't feel guilty about it! We all love you here, and we love hearing about Wombat AND Moose. :)
Vent all you need to, we are all here for you. You have every right to feel the way you do and i personally like when you talk about moose here on the boards,(hope that doesnt come off as werid or something) its keeps his memory alive. im sure others dont want to forget about him maybe they just feel like tehy dont want to upset you with the timing being so close with wombat. im sending good vibes your way :)
I think any of us would be doing the same thing in your situation. Go ahead and take over!
I do not know your story but I wanted to let you know that no one should make you think you should forget Moose. I have had friends lose babies later in term; I can only imagine how devastating it is. Those same friends have children now -- but never, ever, should anyone tell you to forget about your first. Blessings to you and may you find the support to get through this. It's only normal for you to feel anxious, but I hope you can find a way to ease that. Wishing you much joy and happiness.
I hope you never feel like you are mentioning Moose too much. He is still your baby wether he is still with you or not. I have all my fingers and toes crossed that you, your hubby, and Wombat will get the ending that you deserve this time.
I wanted to mention this because I totally forgot before. When my mom was pregnant with me I also had a twin brother. She lost him almost full term, but I survived. Maybe it's because I've never known any different, but my family has always been really supportive about remembering him. My mother asked if DH and I would name our first born son after him and I honestly couldn't think of any better way to honor my brother's memory. My point is even after this many years his memory still lives on and he is still a part of our lives, so don't feel like you wanting to remember Moose is a bad thing. I think it's wonderful and very reflective of your strength that you can share his memory and spirit with us all :)
Ii can't imagine how much Moose has affected your life. It is normal to talk about Moose all the time... and even more so now that Wombat is growing bigger and bigger. It is natural for you to be more and more worried as the 34 week mark approaches. We are here for you for the next 7 weeks until you get to that point, and BEYOND! Vent and talk all you want.
Some people might be avoiding the topic because they don't know how to talk about painful things. Or they might think they are doing you a favor by not bringing it up or changing the subject. BUT WE ARE HERE, and ready to listen to whatever you want to talk about!!!
Moose will always be your first child, and a part of your life, and nothing takes that away. You deserve to preserve his memory in any way you wish, and we'll be here to support you the whole way. I'm confident Wombat will be just fine, but you're his/her Mama and I can't imagine the worry. You and your hubby are amazing for getting through this all intact.
Please don't feel like you mention Moose too much. I even have thoughts about Moose and heed your warnings so I can't imagine how much anxiety you have at the moment.
Best wishes for a lucky 13 more weeks of pregnancy.
@TheFutureMcBride: I hope you know that you have a huge group of people cheering for you here in the hive. Even more than that, we want to know how you are feeling and what's going on.
This is going to sound weird, but I actually think of you sometimes, when I am not on the boards. You are so strong and so brave.
I'll be praying for you and your family.
@TheFutureMcBride: Thank you! So far, none of those in hiding are me. :( I think this month on Clomid didn't take, so I'll have to start another round. I won't hide the news, so you'll know when I'm finally pregnant! :) I loved reading all the wonderful posts that people just wrote to you. You have such great support here!! We all can't imagine what you went through, but we are all rooting for you now!!!!! :)
I agree with all the others talk away.
I think its great that all of "us" here know and love Moose just like we know and love all the other babies from here like Addie.
@lilybay: I second this. It's exactly what I wanted to say.
@west.coast.blonde: Lovely story!
@TheFutureMcBride: I'll be thinking of you! Please talk about Moose as much as you like!
Honestly? If I see you have posted I always read. I love hearing about Moose and I am excited for wombat. I always think positive thoughts when i read your posts to send some good karma your way.
Hopefully one day talking about Angel babies won't be so taboo. My friend had an Angel baby at 36 weeks.
@TheFutureMcBride: I don't post on the baby boards a lot (though I read them every day!). I really enjoy reading your posts, and I hope you continue to share your thoughts and feelings about Moose and/or Wombat. You are definitely not a downer, by any means. I wish you all the best in the next 13 weeks!
i was like that when i had my daughter. i got to 18 weeks and miscarried so when i was 18 weeks with my daughter i put myself on bed rest cus i was terrified!
Only someone who's been through pain like yours can truly understand. Wishing you a super healthy rest of your pregnancy, and a safe delivery. We all know it's going to be a tough road, and no matter when you want to talk/vent, we're all here to listen and give support!
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