Post # 1
This is my last post about this I promise. I just feel like I’m going to lose my freaking mind.
About two months ago Fiance got a job at a local bank. He has to wear business clothes all the time now so I’m ironing a lot lately. I didn’t really know how to iron before he started working there but I’ve had to learn which means a lot of help from his mom. It’s been frustrating for me because it takes me so long to iron them and I’ve told him I would teach him how but I keep thinking that me, as someone who has just started learning, teaching him would be a bad idea.
Last night it took me almost 20 minutes for me to iron his shirt. And by that time I was going to throw the iron at the wall. When I got really frustrated he told me to go as his mom what she thought it looked like because she’s been ironing a long time. I refused saying that she’s really good at it and it just makes me look weak.
I mean, I’m going to be his wife soon and here I am asking his mom for approval about his ironed shirts?! And I’m so damn sick of her critiquing them in the morning saying that I did a bad job on this or that when I think it looks great. Its like she so much more superior over me in this one thing and it makes me wanna scream.
I feel stupid for being mad but Fiance is just like, it’s not that big of a deal to ask her. But to me, it is. I’m about to be his wife and she has to help me iron his shirts? Isn’t there something wrong with this?
Post # 3
I don’t see a problem with asking for help. His mom always digs in (jokingly) that I don’t know how to hem or sew. I also told her that I don’t care to know. It’s not my thing. She’s tried showing ms before but nothing stuck to me. I didn’t care. My suggestion? Let her do it for now. Stick it to her. She will finally grow annoyed that she’s ironing her grown son’s shirt. So the two of you, together, can learn. Men iron too. I get the idea of being old school, but there can be compromises. Good luck.
Post # 4
If he doesn’t like the way you iron his shirts, have his mom teach HIM how to do it.
Post # 6
He should be doing them himself anyway. I have a hard time understanding why anyone has to be taught how to iron too. Unless she’s doing some kind of professional ironing job, what’s the big deal in getting wrinkles out of clothing and how wrong could it be? Are your creases down the sleeves crooked or are you burning the collar?
This is definitely not such an important skill to have that you’d be frustrated about, so I wouldn’t give it much thought or worry. If he’s not happy with it, let him take them to the cleaners and get them done.
Post # 7
@Krises: I actually came to say this. Honestly, I am not judging you for chosing to iron his shirt. But if that was my Fiance I would say F THAT!
You want your ish all pretty, get off your butt and do it yourself.
No offence to you or anything tho.
Post # 8
@Krises: Exactly! Darling Husband irons his own shirts in the morning.
If your Fiance irons them, only he can be critiqued. Or the cleaners is a great and inexpensive way to get it done!
Post # 9
I am also not judging. I enjoy cooking so i like to do it for my Fiance. I dont mind doing laundry so i’ll do his.
HOWEVER when it comes to ironing, I dont like to do it. So either he goes wrinkly or he takes his shirts to the cleaners.
Just because you are a woman, doesnt mean you have to subject yourself to things you do not like to do. I would tell your Fiance what i told mine:
“Honey I love you and would like for you to look tidy and neat. I, however, hate ironing. I have tried and it’s just not my thing. I guess you’re gonna have to take your shirts to the cleaners…”
Post # 10
Yea I’m in agreement with the above. If you want to iron his shirts, fine. But if he has an opinion about how you do it (other than “thank you so much for doing this for me”) then he can get off his ass and do it himself. He is a grown man.
Post # 11
I really dont see why you need approval for an ironed shirt, I think it should be pretty obvious if the shirt is well ironed or if there are still wrinkles in it. Why dont you google “best way to iron a shirt” and then follow instructions. I personally dont understand how hard it can be to iron a shirt, women wear shirts too. I usually iron the collar first and then the “difficult” areas [the front and back of the shoulders and then the rest is pretty straight forward..
Post # 12
WTF? Why the hell are you ironing his shirts? I’m sorry but – what? Are you a 1950’s housewife? No. If he needs ironed shirts he can iron his own damn shirts. This is just ridiculous. Don’t stress yourself over this, you don’t need his mom’s approval or anyone’s. He’s a big boy and can take of himself.
Post # 13
totally agree with you! I HATE to iron, its just tedius, i’d rather wear it wrinkled or take it to the cleaners and they can do it lol! I wouldn’t worry about it, if it looks ok then give it to him, if not let him do it. 🙂
Post # 14
It sounds to me like you feel, on some level, that ironing skills are a measure of how good a wife you will be and your Future Mother-In-Law is going to think you aren’t good enough for her little boy because you struggle to get rid of wrinkles. I could see myself feeling the same way if it was in my face every day, but try to just let this one go. Spend a couple minutes on it, then say “good enough.” And if his mom wants to give you a tutorial on ironing, maybe you should let her – it might make her feel nice to teach you an old school housewife skill. Over time she’ll probably need your help with things too. And get a little spritzer bottle to mist the shirt as you iron, it should help get the wrinkles out.
Post # 15
@Krises: Yes! Agreed.
@SweetRose2011: Ok, I understand you want to be the good wife and help him out. But really, if he or his mom is going to critisize you on how you did, have him do it himself, or tell him he can ask his momma to do it. It’s just an ironed shirt, its not that big a deal, it’ll be wrinkle again once he leans on the chair, or folds his arm. As long as it doesnt look like it just came out of a squished pile… good enough!
Post # 16
I LOATHE ironing…if my Mother-In-Law wanted to do it I’d let her.
I seriously tell my husband what day I’m going to iron and tell him to have his stuff ready or he’s doing it himself (which he can). Also an iron with a steam and spray option can help a lot.
Your husband should know how to do it as well. Plus there are a LOT of wrinkle-free dress shirts now – perhaps buy some of those and pull them out of the dryer immediately – then you can just do touch-ups if needed.