Post # 1
A little over a month from now, I’ll be putting in my 2-weeks notice at my current job and sometime after June 1st I will be boarding a one-way flight to California so I can move in with my SO and start a new chapter on life. I AM EQUAL PARTS EXCITED AND TERRIFIED, BEES!
I’ve been here in central New York since college, about 7 years. And I spent my entire life before that in my Ohio hometown. This is a HUGE move for me and a big life change, but I am soooo ready for it – especially since I’m making the leap with this amazing guy that I am so in love with. He’s been living there since January, so the apartment is already set up (just missing my things!) and I am working my butt off to find a job out there right now. I’ve been setting up some freelance opportunities in the meantime, but I am starting to look to temp agencies in San Jose as well just to find *something* to get me started once I get there.
So – Bees who have done a cross-country move: do you have any advice for me? I’m super outgoing so I’m not worried about making new friends, but are there any obvious pitfalls to avoid?
Here’s a preview of the place we’re living:
Post # 3
When you first move, it still might be tough to find people to hang out with if you haven’t found a job yet. Since you already live away from your family, you won’t be as homesick for them. Just enjoy it and have fun!
Post # 4
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: Yeah – I’m glad my SO has already made some friends so at least we’ll have people to socialize with.
Post # 5
PFff I’ll move there FOR you and you can keep digging out of … how much snow did you guys get this year in Syracuse?
I get where you’re coming from. I moved a 15hour car drive from my entire family. Not including my brother in NY. It’s hard, It’s EXCITING…. IT”S WARMER. I do NOT think you are making a bad move, just a scary one. But you’re smart, you have a resume, you will be fine… tan and flipping warm next winter!!!
Post # 6
@HisIrishPrincess: Haha! According to the Golden Snowball Award website we got 114.7″ total (a couple of which were added earlier this week x_x). I am SO excited to not have to deal with snow next winter oh my goodness.
Thanks so much for the reassurance 🙂 I’ve been planning this seriously since early February, so I’ve had time to get used to the idea and feel confident in the choice – but now that it’s getting close and feels real I’m starting to get a bit antsy.
Post # 7
It is an exciting adventure. I moved about a 10 hour car drive from my family for a year with then FI and loved it! You can meet friends at church, work, or join a group of some kind. I’d trade colder for warmer in a heartbeat! You’ll be fine. The hard part is getting a job when you have no connections and don’t know the area. I went to a staffing agency out of desperation and ended up working for them in their office. When we moved back home I did the same thing and now am in the best job of my life and in the field of work I went to college for! Good luck to you and enjoy this new adventure with your man! 🙂
Post # 8
I think the only part of my cross country move that I needed advice on WAS making friends. The rest of it was just nice and smooth for me. I got there, moved in, found a job pretty quickly and that was that. Making friends was a lot harder since I didn’t love the people I work with, but I eventually did that by joining a really big volunteer organization. I guess I will say when applying for jobs before you get there put your SO’s local address and ph# on your résumé. I got way more responses with local info
Post # 9
omg, haha we’re moving across the country from DC to SoCal (where I’m from) at the end of May/beginning of June too!.
So, obviously I’ve already moved across the country once and I’m about to do it again. This time I have more stuff so it will be a bigger PITA. But, we’re selling all of our furniture because it’s not worth it to take it all with us. We are driving, not flying. I would say, be prepared for a culture difference but Northern California is much more east-coast like than Southern California. Be prepared to get involved in some activities to make new friends. Go out exploring and get to know your new environment.
Give yourselves some time to settle into this new lifestyle. PM me if you want to chat about the move, I’m in the same boat!
Post # 10
Yeah you are moving! What great news and the place looks awesome. I’m jealous that you are leaving the area!
What are you taking with you? I would try to sell everything “big” before you go, just so you don’t have to move it and you’ll have some extra money. If you are using a moving company research them to death. Another bee had a HORRIBLE experience with a moving company (as SO many other people I know have with different companies) and a lot of her stuff was lost/damaged/stolen. So my only advice is only take what you need/want and then I’d box everything else up and send it via FedEx or UPS with tracking. I know this might be more expensive but I’d rather have my belongings get there and be all there than lose a lot of stuff to a moving company.
ETA: Also do you have a guest room?
Post # 11
@MissCalifornia: it’s been planned for two months … give yourself a break… you SHOULD feel antsy… i just moved south .. .not across the country!!! I think you should get a snowglobe of Syracuss and take it with you!
Post # 12
We’re doing a cross-country move in 2 months too! I think we are going to hire movers because it’s only a tad more expensive than renting a U-Haul and way less hassle! My FI and I (and our dog!) are going to road trip over 5-6 days and hopefully have a house to move into! It’s going to be a lot of work, but it will be a fun adventure! Good luck with all your moves too!
Post # 13
@Utopia4us: Yeah, I’ve been using our San Jose address for everything I’ve applied to and also put a sentence about planned relocation into my cover letters so employers would know I’m not just applying to jobs across the country on a whim xD I’ve still gotten nothing but rejections… but I know the right job is out there!!
@CaliHoya: Yay for cross-country moving buddies 😀 Yeah, I felt pretty at home during my recent visit – except it felt way more laid back and friendly than here, which I really loved. We decided to sell our furniture as well (right now he’s renting, but 2 weeks from now his parents are gonna fly out and help him buy new stuff).
@Bazinga: Omg yes, that thread has been at the forefront of my mind! And actually, we found a cool solution – his best friends love driving and want to come visit, so they’re going to help me put my stuff in a small U-haul (not taking a lot with me – only 1 bookshelf and 1 side table for furniture then just boxes for everything else) and drive it across the country to our apartment. I love knowing I won’t be entrusting my stuff with strangers!
No guest room, but our couch is a pull-out!
@HisIrishPrincess: Heh, yeah. I’m just a very Type A, gotta know all the details and go over them a zillion times type of person. I’m going to spend this weekend going through my storage closet and also start boxing up the books I’m taking with me – I think getting started on packing/sorting will make me feel less antsy.
@RunnerBride13: Sounds like quite the adventure! I’m hoping at some point he and I can take the time to drive back East across the country because it’s something I’ve always wanted to do. For this time, I’ll be flying to make things simpler.
Post # 14
DH and I are moving cross-country (MN to south Florida) later this summer so I’m interested to hear what people say. We are likely driving everything down there since we have dogs and we aren’t willing to ship them…just not comfortable with that.
It’s interesting that my #1 concern about the move seems to be dead-on. I’m not worried about finding a job, but I don’t know a soul in south Florida and I’m hoping I make some friends quickly. I’ve lived in MN for my entire life so my family and all of my friends are here…I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t afraid of that.
Post # 15
My husband and I relocated to Berkeley from Boston last year. I think the most important thing for us was just getting our bearings (mental map style) and getting OUT there and taking advantage of all the awesome free stuff to do! I’m not as familiar with San Jose, since we spend our time in San Fran and hiking up in the Berkeley hills/Marin county, but there is, on any given weekend, 80 billion things to do. Most of them are free or only need gas to get there. Meetup.com is also super super active, as is sosh.com! Maybe join a casual hiking group? Or a group for one of your other hobbies? You’ll meet people quickly that way!
Also, your place looks super super nice. Congrats!
Post # 16
@jocember AWESOME that you have friends driving your stuff out! That is awesome of them.
Yeah for pullout couches I may be on yours when the CNY snow happens next winter. Hell I’d sleep on the lounge chairs by the pool if they’d let me!