Post # 1
Okay, I just had to get this out. Planning a wedding on a tiny budget sucks! I’ve already figured out most of it will be spent on food, even if I just served cake and tea at this rate. I’ve also learned that when you call places to inquire about catering, venue rentals, cakes, etc., you do NOT mention the word ‘wedding’ lest you hear the sounds of cash registers *ding* on the vendor’s end of the line. Catering for 100 people, $25 a plate, but if it’s for a WEDDING, then BOOM! It’s $56 a plate…minimum!!
Then I still have to figure out what I’ll do for wedding invitations. Those things cost too much, even if you pick the ‘cheap’ ones. I think I may just hit up Vistaprint.com and send out those free business cards with wedding info on them. Score for unique wedding invite!
And now it appears I’ve run out of steam. I had a lot more to say, but can’t remember what. I guess all this wedding stuff is driving me batty. And if my FMIL didn’t have this need to throw a reception because her baby boy is getting married, I’d just run to Vegas with the Fiance.
On the plus side, starting a registry was fun. Not that I expect anyone to actually gift the pink Nintendo DS I threw on there, or the PS Vita that he picked out, but we’ll see! 😉
Thank you for letting me rant! I feel much better now. Anyone else want to join in?
Post # 3
Welcome to the tiny budget club!
The way companies exploit people who are planning a wedding is insane! Before I found my wedding venue I had such a hard time finding a reasonably priced, but pretty, venue that was less than £5-7k (I live in London). I was so excited to be engaged and threw myself into the early planning stages with some enthusiasm and excitement, but my spirits were swiftly crushed after I realised quite how expensive things would cost.
With regards to invitations, I’m making my own, because there is no way I’m forking out more money for things that I can do myself. Same goes for the flowers. I want a simple bouquet of one type of flower, so the day before the wedding I’ll be heading to the flower market to pick them.
And don’t even get me started on the price of dresses! I’m trying to stay positive, because at the end of the day, those things are very small in comparison to the womderful memories we’ll be creating with our soulmates, but, I’m still hoping I might win the lottery within the year!
Post # 4
haha I hear you. I feel the same way. My FMIL is also the type that wants a huge wedding but isn’t really helping out…yet she complains about EVERYTHING! Have you checked out Michaels for wedding invitations? You can get them on sale 10$ for 40 invitations if you’re lucky (we got them at this price) or even try making your own??
As for joining in on the rant….i have NO idea how people think its ok to charge so much money for FLOWERS ,….. maybe its because im not a flower person but im not spending thousands on them! no way! argh wheres that money tree when you need one!
Post # 5
@dmarie4: +1 about the dress too…my goodness dresses are expensive!!! I;m looking for second hand ones at this point!
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Sweet_Tea: Rant away; it is frustrating! I have lots of great ideas for cutting your budget but still having a nice wedding.
For example, I used the $17 for $70 Vistaprint Groupon deal and only ended up paying $27 on my invitations and save the dates ($10 for shipping.) They turned out great and were a great budget saver!
Post # 7
@Sweet_Tea: Where in FL are you getting married? If you are getting married in the middle keys, I can send you some of my vendor info.
With regards to the “wedding mark-up” – I suggest asking the vendor, point blank, why the “wedding version” is more. If they can’t give you a good reason, then move on to the next one!
That being said, after getting married, I am glad I paid for what I paid for. On my wedding day, there were a lot of minor things that needed attention. And all those vendors that I paid $$ – they were the ones to deal with it and “make it right.” I worried about nothing. I just said “get it done” and it was taken care of. I realized afterwards that I paid the “extra money” because my vendors worked their buts off to make sure my day went well and I did not have to worry about anything. Just something to keep in mind.
Also – you have some time….if you are getting frustrated, take a few days off! When wedding planning got the best of me (and we have all been there), I simply put it away for a week, a month, whatever, until I felt up to the challenge again.
Post # 8
oh preach!!! we are running into the same problems. I’d love to run away to vegas and get married by Elvis – but FMIL’s only child and BABBBBYYYYY is getting married so we need to throw a expensive ass 5 hour party for everyone she has ever met. i hate planning this wedding. haha
Post # 9
I’m sorry 🙁 it can be tough
May I suggest this website for invites? I’ve found them to be cheaper than vista print, and who really needs a more stressful DIY when these are about the same price?
These are the ones I picked out
I am just doing cake and champagne, trying to keep it all under 5k (I do live in a rather poor area…)
Post # 10
@Rock Hugger: Getting married in Jacksonville, at least 96% sure anyways.
Someone mentioned a beach wedding, but having been born and partially raised in NW Florida, nothing on the atlantic coast compares to the sugar white sands of the ‘Emerald Coast.’ 😀
Post # 11
Totally understand what you are going through! We live in Los Angeles, so everything is even more expensive. When we first got engaged, I did research over 30 venues in the LA area. Just for the reception part, it ranges from low $100 to mid $200 per guest. Again…just for reception! It was ridiculous. We were able to rent a place overlooking the ocean. The great part about it is that we were able to provide our own caterer and bring in alcohol. We were able to find a very affortable caterer and alcohol will be from Costco! Saved us soooo much money.
As for invitations, I got them from Michael’s on clearance. They were pretty and only 30 for only $10! You can always use 40% coupno for regular priced items there too.
I am doing as much diy as possible. There’s a lot of wedding diy websites and youtube too. I am making my own centerpieces, wedding favors, etc. Just google search and you will likely find what you need online for cheaper.
As for wedding dress, I was able to find the dress I like on ebay for less than 1/2 of what the store wanted. It was “last year’s model” so they were getting rid of inventory online. New with tag for $600. Great deal. You can probably find a lot of people selling dresses online. My suggstion is to get a new one without alternation. As for bridesmaid dresses, I suggest going into a department store and buying something off the rack. (Macy’s, BCBG, Nordstrom, etc.) Cheaper and great return policy!