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Luckily no but I am so sorry that you have to do this. I can only imagine how hard it must be for you. Do you have any friends or family that could take the cat so that you could still visit?
That is so sad! And it sounds like there is no way around it in your case. But, it is for the right kind of reason, and I'm sure you'll find the right home for kitty.
To me, my dog has been a guy meter. I feel like my two Bernese Mountain Dogs have been incredibly good judges of character, and I always paid attention to their reaction to the man in my life. My pup and fiance are a perfect pair!
Condolences to you. Hopefully, you'll find another way to bring the kind of love that pets bring into your life!
I wish there was someone who could take her, but I've exhausted the options. What I don't want to happen is for me to ever resent my husband because of it. I've been really upset with the situation but I know of course there's nothing he can do about it. I knew what I was getting into. I think we might be looking into a hypo-allergenic dog soon as a replacement! :)
Portuguese Water Dogs are going to sky rocket in popularity starting in April, because it sounds like that is the hypoallergenic dog the Obamas are getting. Poodles are a good choice too!
Oh emjoy, that is so sad! I hope you find someone who will love your cat and maybe it will be someone you know so you can visit her!
I have cat allergies and allergies to some dogs. FI and I were both in college and petless when we met, so fortunately he doesn't have to give up any cats, but I get really sad knowing that I am depriving him of getting a cat. Instead we have a hypoallergenic shih tzu, which has really helped him feel better about not having a cat!
I'm sure your husband feels awful! Maybe the two of you can make a donation to a local pet shelter in your area, since that's something that won't trigger an asthma attack and might be a nice way to honor and remember your cat.
I would have a really hard time giving up my pets, too! Honestly, it really sucks that you have to do that, but what a devoted future wife you must be.
You said he looked into allergy shots, but thought it might be too much for a pet he's not connected with. Would he reconsider that stance if he knew the allergy shots would help improve many other areas of his life? I used to have terrible allergies: I couldn't even leave the house during the fall and spring, I couldn't be around animals, and I suffered monthly sinus infections and other illnesses. I had an allergy test about 10 years ago and started shots shortly after that. Even before I finished the shots I saw a dramatic improvement, and I was finally able to start enjoying many activities I used to avoid (like hiking, horse back riding, playing sports outside, owning pets, etc...). Plus, I haven't had a sinus infection in over a year! I don't know if your fiance might be more open to the idea if he knew how much allergy shots would help improve his daily life, but I think they were the best decision I could have made, in my situation.
I wish he would look more into the shots. It's a lot of time and money though and it takes so long to see an effect. It seems like they would be good for him though for his quality of life. He just lives with all of his symptoms and takes lots of medicine but he's frustrated by the whole thing for sure. I just hate to see him like this. We didn't live together before the wedding, so I'm just now getting a feel for how bad his allergies really are. (Especially now in FL with pollen!)
Thanks for the advice, ladies!
I had to give up my cat, too...so I feel you. My husband is not allergic to them, but he hates hair in the house. My cat had very long hair, so it really did get everywhere. I would have just made him an outside cat (he was an inside/outside cat at my house), but we live in the city, which has an incredibly active animal control unit. I would hate for him to get picked up. He really is a great cat, but luckily my aunt has been in love with him for years, so she was more than willing to take him.
I have a havanese (1 year old) that I rescued. He's hypoallergenic and we love him. Has he considered shots? My guy is somewhat allergic to my having 3 dogs and he's willing to do what it takes because our pets are part of my family and he understands that. I know shots are unpleasant, but as an allergy sufferer myself, I withstood them as a child. minimal discomfort might I say and I'm in the medical profession.
Ever think of getting the furminator? It's a fur system to get rid of that troublesome fur? How about that? And you can see your vet for suggestions before having to get rid of a furry family member.
Be very careful about so called "hypoallergenic" pets. There really is no such thing. Most animals that are labeled hypoallergenic are really just animals which do not shed. But people aren't allergic to the fur. People are allergic to the saliva and skin cells on the fur. If your husband has allergies that are really bad, even a hairless breed or cropping breed (shedless) may not be ok for him. I would do a trial period before you commit to owning the animal. Also, most reputable breeders offer a lifetime guarantee, so you can bring the dog back if your husband is still allergic.
ok, we'll have to look into the hypoallergenic pets then...I'd hate to get one and it not work for him. I've never bought a pure-bred dog before anyway. All my pets have come from the shelter. That's part of why I'm so upset to have to give my cat up - I pormised her that I'd always take care of her so that she will never end up in a cage again. And now I'm giving her up :( It's just going to be tough going through the interview process! I might be incredibly picky...
I have major allergies to cats too. I have allergies to everything except food (grass, trees, mold, dust, animals etc etc). I took the shots when I was younger but they weren't all that. I've grown out of a majority of them - but not cats. I still get crazy red/itchy eyes and a snot attack when I'm in someone's house who has cats. I guess what I'm saying is that a 'cat allergy' isn't one that is easily fixed.
I'm sure you'll find her a good loving home - and that will help you not be so sad knowing she's getting lots of lovin & attention in her new home!
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My mom took my 4 year old cat. She LOVES the cat soo much. I think the cat's way happier with her than it ever was with me.
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Adding: My son is a mild asthmatic. He has no problem with our indoor dog, the havanese. He would be utterly wheezing if the dog had a fur/dander problem. Our other dogs are outdoors. Plus I'm a medical chick. My son's allergist said this breed was fine for indoor and we've had no problems whatsoever. He even sleeps with him sometimes!
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I would NEVER get rid of a pet. Never! I love animals so much. I would have to try ever other option I could think of first. if allergy shots work, that seems like such a better option, at least in my view. Poor kitty. :(
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I LOVE my cat and I never thought I would give her up, but I don't want to be selfish and have my husband sick and uncomfortable because of her. I guess it's become a trade-off. I got a wonderful husband!
As an allergic cat person, I can tell you that you did the right decision and he will forever appreciate that. Mine are equally severe to the point where I don't even visit friends or family that have cats as it always will take 2 or 3 days to get over it.
My guy is allergic to high-dander (furry) dogs & cats & has asthma. We adopted a Sphynx cat last summer and he hasn't had any bad reactions at all to our hairless "kid". All cats & dogs have dander, however those with not-so-fuzzy or "hairless" coats do not "spread" the dander around so much.
I have a close friend with a similar issue and have given this topic some thought. personally, I have lived without cats before, but the entire time (during college, in dorms) I always longed to have one. I appreciate their companionship and low maintenance ways. If my fiance didn't like cats, I think it would have actually caused a problem. I know that I would have asked him (read: demanded) that he at least try the shots and if, IF that didn't work, then we'd figure out where to go from there. I know i would do the same for him. I don't really care for dogs, but you know what, he wants one and I am ok with that because he has indulged me w/ adopting 2 felines!
I have terrible allergies, and allergy shots are the best! They really work. Yes, they are expensive, and yes, they are a pain (you have to go 1-2 times a week in the beginning and then down to once every few weeks for years).
Have FI look into it again, it will really improve the quality of his life. Make it about his life, not just the cat.
The allergy shots are great! They have helped my sister deal with the most severe level asthma a person can have without being frequently hospitalized--being around cats used to make her sick for a week (like a dangerously low peak flow and going on prednazone sick), but after about three years of various shots, her illnesses have become much shorter and less frequent.
As for the dog, my family had a cocker spaniel for twelve years, and two years ago, adopted a wire hair terrier/airdale/who knows what else mix, and she has been fantastic. She's super hyper and can escape from anywhere if she's not wearing her electric collar, which we have learned is normal for terriers, but she's very sweet. We can wash her every week if we need to, and this helps keep the allergy issues even more at bay. So...terriers are another good option!
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I know I can't really compare the two, but having to give up my cat of 5 years because of my husband's allergies has been a terrible thing to go through. I knew it was inevitable when we got together - he has severe asthma and allergies to LOTS of things and cats are just one of them - but it's still difficult now that it's actually happening. He looked into getting allergy shots, but it seemed like so much to go through and for long - 2-3 years. (And it's MY cat, not his, so he doesn't exactly have the love for her that I do.) His allergies are severe, so there is no option to just vaccuum all the time and use air filters, etc. And when I get prego, there will be no one to change the litter! Yuck.
I just put out the flyer about her. so hopefully the right person will come along. I'm just so sad. Anyone having to give up a pet when they get married?
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