(Closed) Gain a husband…but have to give up a pet?

posted 9 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Luckily no but I am so sorry that you have to do this. I can only imagine how hard it must be for you. Do you have any friends or family that could take the cat so that you could still visit?

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

That is so sad!  And it sounds like there is no way around it in your case.  But, it is for the right kind of reason, and I’m sure you’ll find the right home for kitty.

To me, my dog has been a guy meter.  I feel like my two Bernese Mountain Dogs have been incredibly good judges of character, and I always paid attention to their reaction to the man in my life.  My pup and fiance are a perfect pair!

Condolences to you.  Hopefully, you’ll find another way to bring the kind of love that pets bring into your life!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Portuguese Water Dogs are going to sky rocket in popularity starting in April, because it sounds like that is the hypoallergenic dog the Obamas are getting.  Poodles are a good choice too!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Oh emjoy, that is so sad! I hope you find someone who will love your cat and maybe it will be someone you know so you can visit her!

I have cat allergies and allergies to some dogs. FI and I were both in college and petless when we met, so fortunately he doesn’t have to give up any cats, but I get really sad knowing that I am depriving him of getting a cat. Instead we have a hypoallergenic shih tzu, which has really helped him feel better about not having a cat! 

I’m sure your husband feels awful! Maybe the two of you can make a donation to a local pet shelter in your area, since that’s something that won’t trigger an asthma attack and might be a nice way to honor and remember your cat. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would have a really hard time giving up my pets, too!  Honestly, it really sucks that you have to do that, but what a devoted future wife you must be.

You said he looked into allergy shots, but thought it might be too much for a pet he’s not connected with.  Would he reconsider that stance if he knew the allergy shots would help improve many other areas of his life?  I used to have terrible allergies: I couldn’t even leave the house during the fall and spring, I couldn’t be around animals, and I  suffered monthly sinus infections and other illnesses.  I had an allergy test about 10 years ago and started shots shortly after that.  Even before I finished the shots I saw a dramatic improvement, and I was finally able to start enjoying many activities I used to avoid (like hiking, horse back riding, playing sports outside, owning pets, etc…).  Plus, I haven’t had a sinus infection in over a year!  I don’t know if your fiance might be more open to the idea if he knew how much allergy shots would help improve his daily life, but I think they were the best decision I could have made, in my situation. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had to give up my cat, too…so I feel you. My husband is not allergic to them, but he hates hair in the house. My cat had very long hair, so it really did get everywhere. I would have just made him an outside cat (he was an inside/outside cat at my house), but we live in the city, which has an incredibly active animal control unit. I would hate for him to get picked up. He really is a great cat, but luckily my aunt has been in love with him for years, so she was more than willing to take him.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have a havanese (1 year old) that I rescued.  He’s hypoallergenic and we love him.  Has he considered shots?  My guy is somewhat allergic to my having 3 dogs and he’s willing to do what it takes because our pets are part of my family and he understands that.  I know shots are unpleasant, but as an allergy sufferer myself, I withstood them as a child.  minimal discomfort might I say and I’m in the medical profession.

Ever think of getting the furminator?  It’s a fur system to get rid of that troublesome fur?  How about that?  And you can see your vet for suggestions before having to get rid of a furry family member.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

Be very careful about so called “hypoallergenic” pets.  There really is no such thing.  Most animals that are labeled hypoallergenic are really just animals which do not shed.  But people aren’t allergic to the fur.  People are allergic to the saliva and skin cells on the fur.  If your husband has allergies that are really bad, even a hairless breed or cropping breed (shedless) may not be ok for him.  I would do a trial period before you commit to owning the animal.  Also, most reputable breeders offer a lifetime guarantee, so you can bring the dog back if your husband is still allergic.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2007

I have major allergies to cats too.  I have allergies to everything except food (grass, trees, mold, dust, animals etc etc).  I took the shots when I was younger but they weren’t all that.  I’ve grown out of a majority of them – but not cats.  I still get crazy red/itchy eyes and a snot attack when I’m in someone’s house who has cats.  I guess what I’m saying is that a ‘cat allergy’ isn’t one that is easily fixed.

I’m sure you’ll find her a good loving home – and that will help you not be so sad knowing she’s getting lots of lovin & attention in her new home!

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

My mom took my 4 year old cat. She LOVES the cat soo much. I think the cat’s way happier with her than it ever was with me.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Adding:  My son is a mild asthmatic.  He has no problem with our indoor dog, the havanese.  He would be utterly wheezing if the dog had a fur/dander problem.  Our other dogs are outdoors.  Plus I’m a medical chick.  My son’s allergist said this breed was fine for indoor and we’ve had no problems whatsoever.  He even sleeps with him sometimes!

 

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