Post # 1
After having a crazy month and a half I realized waiting doesn’t matter as much to me as I thought it did. I would rather be happy just being with someone rather than put so much focus on an engagement or marriage. I realized how much I really love and care about bf and I do not need an engagement to validate or show others that my feelings towards him are real. We’re still having time apart because we need to work on things in our personal lives at the moment. I’ve been having family problems and was taking it out on him; he’s been pressuring himself to exhaustion with his insane work and school schedule and was taking it out on me plus all the crazy waiting pressure. We were both not treating each other with as much respect as we should have been, we’ve apologized for it and it has been getting better. I believe that we’re meant to be together, when you know you just know there’s no other way to explain it. Right now I just have to trust that it will all work out in the end.
Post # 3
Wow that’s great that you are coming to terms with things. I think we are going through very similar things right now. I have often grappled with whether it is marriage or the person I am with that is more important. Ideally it would be both, picking one or the other is hard but I, like you, would also probably pick my bf. It hurts a bit now but in the end if your Boyfriend or Best Friend and you were meant to be, it is the journey that you take together that is important and along the way, you both can decide to define it however you choose.
I think that it is very mature that you can take time apart and trust each other while working through your own things on your own. I hope things get better soon!! Hang in there!
Post # 4
@tenacity: thanks that helped alot.
Part of what helped me over last weekend they kept having commercials on some channel of the royal wedding one year later or something like that and I thought didn’t they break up at some point and then she had the world world judging her for waiting all those years? I googled and found this: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/royal-wedding/8138697/William-and-Kate-split-made-us-stronger.html