Gamer SO/FI/DHs

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MissMonie:  although, not the biggest gamer all the time, my FI goes through fazes when there’s a new Batman, Ghostbusters or Battlefield game And I become what feels like a widow. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@MissMonie:  My FI is a huge gamer! Since we live abroad right now and don’t have great access to internet, his are mainly solo games like Bioshock, The Witcher, etc. But yeah, it can get a little frustrating sometimes! Luckily I love to game too and he can’t give me crap when I do 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

Haha yes, FI loves video games. We don’t live together, but text each other all the time outside of his work hours, and often he won’t text me for hours, because he was busy playing a game. I start to worry after about 3 hours, then I find out he has been playing a game all that time. He loves first person shooter games, GTA, Assassin’s Creed, etc. 

ETA: And I can’t watch him play the games or play them too because I get motion sickness from them. I play PC hidden object games 🙂 But not quite to the extent he plays PS3 lol.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@MissMonie:  Yes mam you are not the only one! My FI does it too and it drives me nuts when he goes through phases. I don’t mind when it is a fun game to watch like COD Black Ops Zombies, but only if he would turn the volume up so I can hear the other players talking too…otherwise no. Not fun at all.  He did sell his xbox though and the next gaming system he gets he said he’ll put downstairs so he won’t play all the time….and we can use it as a blueray player since we don’t have one. He’s been playing some computer games in the meantime, and I just started playing one of the games.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MissMonie:  DH’s whole life is one big phase! He’s a hardcore gamer, plays around 3 hours on an average weekday, and can sometimes play for 8-10 hours on a day off if not interrupted.

Fortunately, even though I’m dreadful at games myself, I have a working knowledge of the material and the industry and don’t mind it most of the time – sometimes I even enjoy it since we have about 75% similar taste in games. (I’m bored or annoyed by a lot of first person war shooters with no plot, but he doesn’t really play a lot of those, he likes narrative games with interesting stories we can share. I have legitimately cried at certain games, like it was a movie!)

I love how his hobby keeps him at home with me – I don’t think I could be with a car enthusiast or an outdoorsman who spent so much time away – and gives us something we can always talk about.

I love that he engages with it on a meta level and is the first to admit the problematic nature of a lot of games and studios, even ones he likes.

I love how he is frugal, always happy to “acquire” games in a “less expensive” way, and when he does buy, he usually waits for sales and discounts and plays every game to 100%, making it a fairly inexpensive hobby. 

I love how it gives him a way to keep in touch and spend time with his friends and family even though we live on the other side of the world from them.

He is mostly considerate, if I ask to, say, marathon a show we like on the big TV one day, he’ll forego his game time for awhile to indulge me if he didn’t have anything planned with his brother. (I know how hard it can be to coordinate time zones.) And most games, at most times, he’s happy to chat with me while he plays as long as it’s not a serious discussion. 

Now, there ARE times when he gets a little overexcited and can be loud/harsh at the TV and it gets to me a bit when it becomes excessive. But he’s open to hearing when he’s crossed a line and making an effort to calm down, or I’ll just go relax in the other room until things have been soothed. 

But for the most part, I have few complaints and couldn’t be happier to be married to a gamer. 🙂 Also makes gifting holidays pretty easy too!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m a gamermyself. Love first person shooter war games like COD. FI and I play together. No issues in our home.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My fiance goes through phases – if he’s really into a game he could play up to like 20 hours a week, but that usually only happens once or twice a year.  I don’t think I could handle it if he was playing non-stop all the time whenever he had a free second.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MissMonie:  My FI plays Call of Duty sometimes when he is off work and I am at work, but as soon as I get home game goes off and he gives me attention. If I am home with him he always asks me if it’s ok before he starts playing and even then he only plays for 20 minute spurts. 

Post # 12
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Newbee

Gaming can be very destructive to a relationship. I recently broke up with my FI who was a heavy gamer… Heavy – I mean 5 hours a day pure gaming plus countless hours talking with his gaming buddies, sorting out his squad’s issues etc. 

The game itself didn’t kill our relationship, but it caused lack of communication between us… After 1,5 year of such, I left.

Don’t get me wrong, I love gaming myself. But when games replace your relatioship, it’s something seriously wrong.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I used to be a ‘WoW Widow’ for a while, but DH has gotten better.  He plays more tabletop games than video or computer games now.  Most of the time, I’m losing him to miniature painting (some of these things are wicked complicated and take hours to paint).

I used to game, but not so much right now.  Our poor PS3 and Wii are collecting dust

🙁

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@dgplmr86:  Me too. High five. 😉

Post # 16
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Busy bee

@MissMonie:  My So is a huge gamer. I stupidly bought him an elite edition of the xbox360 for Chrstmas one year (thinking i was being the best gf ever) and it totally backfired lol. I love him, but he is in a completely different world when he plays. One time, I was messing with him and I said honey, I think you should know that I’m pregnant. The doctor says I’m due in May. The dude didn’t even bat an eyelid. He said that’s great honey. I’m sure you will look fine. ummm WTF! lol. Boys and their toys

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