Post # 1
So it looks like we will have a gap between our ceremony and reception no matter what we do since the only option for times at the church are either 12pm or 2pm because it is a catholic chruch and they have confessional at 4.
The potential problem is that one of the churches we are looking at is directly accross from the reception site and we had been planning on our reception starting at 4:30 or 5. Do you think it will be odd to have a potential 2 hr gap in between when the reception is accross the street from the church? We can have a cocktail hour at an additional fee and the reception hall offered to open the doors and let our guests in early even if we dont add a cocktail hour so they are not stuck outside in the heat.
The other church we are looking at is accross town but will end up costing us almost a $1000 more to “rent” it for the wedding. I think if we went with this church it would look more natural to have a gap and there are more things to do on that side of town to occupy our guests.
The churches and reception venue are nowhere close to the hotels we will have blocked so i doubt anyone will want to go back to the hotel in between
Should i worry about the weird gap? or should i just let it go and try not to stress out about it? My main worry is that his side of the family is known to only stay at wedding receptions for 3-4 hrs and im afraid that they would just head accross the street directly after the ceremony and only stay till 6 or 7 when we have the hall and DJ and photographer till 10.
Post # 3
So you can hold the wedding at 2? How long is the ceremony? I think your best bet is to hold it at 2 and then pony up the extra money for the cocktail hour.
Are there any hotels at all near the ceremony or reception site? If there are I would suggest booking a block of rooms there so that the gap won’t be as much of a nuisance to guests.
From my point of view, a 2 hour gap is much worse than a larger (4 hour) gap. I don’t have time to go anywere during a 2 hour gap where as I could at least head home or something during the 4 hour gap.
Post # 4
my best friend did that. and honestly… if I hadnt been maid of honor… I would not have gone to the reception. It’s very obnoxious to be sitting aroind waiting for the reception to start for such a long period of time UNLESS there is a cocktail hour. That might make it manageable… A LOT of people didnt end up showing back up until way after dinner. So she paid for way more food than was actually used. This can be contributed to the fact that most people had the idea of “two hours? screw that. I’ll come back later at my conveniance”
This is totally completely and 100% my opinion though. Your guests may be differant… but that was the way it worked out for her.
Post # 5
@MrsBeck the wedding will definately be at 2, and theres not really any hotels nearby
@Korenne Trust me if i could avoid a gap i would! But with the ceremony being at a Catholic church theres no way to avoid that
Post # 6
@mmccann13: If there is a gap, it should be hosted. The cocktail hour is the perfect way to do this. You could even just host sodas, water, iced tea and some apps if you can’t afford to host alcohol.
Post # 7
@mmccann13: My cousin married into a Catholic family and we had this exact situation. Her wedding was at 2 and the reception started at 5. It was so annoying. We ended up going to McDonald’s (in our dress clothes) because we were starving and 5 hours from home. It’s harder to waste 2 hours than you think it is. Ugh.
Post # 8
I have no problem hosting a cocktail hour and i think it would be a great transiton into the reception but i am worried that people will leave the reception early if they come to the cocktail hour, his family frequently only stays at wedding receptions for 3-4 hrs and im afraid most of them will leave earlier than they normally would if they “had” to attend a cocktail hour. Did anyone else have a problem with that?
Post # 9
Is there a park nearby? Restaurants nearby?
When I live it is completely normal to have a 2-3 gap! I am actually surprised when there isn’t one. I usually relax with friends in between, get changed into even fancier clothes, or go to a restaurant/lounge and get some drinks. I don’t think you need to have a cocktail hour if it’s out of your budget. Given that the reception is across the street I probably wouldn’t go home, but I would probably go to a lounge with friends. To me it wouldn’t be a big deal at all.
Post # 10
I would find some sort of activity for everyone to do!
Post # 11
2pm ceremony and pay for the cocktail hour. Problem (easily) solved!
In my area, many people are Catholic and a lot of guests skip the ceremony bc of the gap. It is annoying.
I have a wedding on Black Friday (!!!! I am a huge shopper!) and the ceremony is at 1 and reception at 6. There is no way I am going to both and giving up my whole day on a holiday weekend.