Post # 1
Hi Bees, I’m new to the site and I have to say that I love the friendly tone of the boards and the bees. Love it!
I’m having a problem with what I see as a big gap between my Sat 2p wedding ceremony and my six-ish wedding reception. I’m having a lengthy church ceremony that I forsee ending at about three thirty. The wedding reception will be held at my home. What do I do with my guests for two and a half hours? Do I hold them at the church for picture taking? Or have them proceed to the reception site without me and my husband while we’re having pictures taken?
My reception is small, about 50 or 60 guests, and all from out of town, I hate to not be with them at all times being a good host. Should I have someone officiate as host while my husband and I are busy? Host a cocktail hour and/or hor’derves, that I hadn’t planned on? I’m sure someone has been thru this dilemna. Or maybe I’m just freaking out over nothing, lol. Thanks In Advance bees.
Post # 3
It looks like you aren’t getting married until 2012, so you certainly have some time. Is there any way you could push the ceremony forward a bit? Perhaps start it at 4 instead?
Whatever you do, don’t hold people at the church while you take pictures. I went to a wedding where a couple did this and a bunch of people were so frustrated they didn’t even go to the reception. Put yourself in their shoes: Would you want to wait around for two hours while someone took pictures?
Post # 4
Unfortunately, 2p is the latest the church can marry my FH and I. They could do later, but it would be on a Friday and my guests will be traveling in from out of town on that day. We have our hearts set on an evening reception because of our tent/decor/lighting we’ve selected. It’ll look wonderful at that time of the year 🙂
Post # 5
Only keep the people you need for picture taking-members of the bridal party and any family you want in group pictures.
Designate someone to be at your home to greet guests who arrive early. Perhaps have a punch or something to offer them as refreshment, but otherwise let your gusets entertain themselves for a couple of hours.
It’s a great opportunity to go for a beverage, socialize with people they haven’t seen for a while.
It is not your responsibility to entertain them every single minute of that day.
Post # 6
@ms.charming: Oh, okay. Sounds lovely! I agree with PP that you don’t need to have fun and games supplied for every second of the day. If many of your guests will be out of town guests, compile a list of fun things to do or nice places to go that would only take about two hours. This is their time to explore the town a bit. You could also have brief refreshments provided if you want to, but only if it’s in your budget!
Post # 7
Maybe provide a list of places close to your home where the guests could stop over between the ceremony and the reception. This is an understated way of you providing guidance without taking full responsibility for every minute of their day.
Post # 8
Most of the weddings I have been to have that lag in between the ceremony and the reception. We usually found a bar to go hang out at or go get some Portillo’s, which has become my wedding day food!
Have you thought about taking pictures before the wedding ceremony? I am still unsure if I want to as I want there to be that moment when I come down the aisle and my Fiance sees me but talk to your photographer about doing “first look” photos which we may still do. Our photographer explained to me too that this way your make-up and hair are still fresh for the close up shots of the bride/groom/bridal party. And you don’t have a long time between ceremony and reception. 🙂
Post # 9
Can you up the reception? I just think 2 1/2 hrs is a long time. There is usually a cocktail hour, but who wants to sit around that long. You don’t have to entertain your guests every minute, but you invite them so you have to be conscious of their needs. Also, if you can’t, atleast have someone for-warn them, say hey we’re going to have a long cocktail hour at my house so please take your time getting there and know we will be there in about 2 hrs. I have been to weddings where all the guests just sit around when the party is going to get started. Eventually some bail. So just be aware.
Post # 10
I really like your idea of having “first look” photos, because the ceremony at the church is going to take at least an hour. I’m adding this to the list of things I want to do on my wedding day 🙂 My FH and I haven’t booked a photographer yet, but I do have a list of must have photos I want taken during the ceremony and reception. Thanks for the suggestion 🙂
Post # 11
If you don’t want your guests to arrive at your home before you do, perhaps you can plan for them to have refreshments at the church (ie: punch and cookies, cheese plate etc.) in the church’s fellowship hall or outside if the weather is nice. Or, if you want cocktails (or don’t want an additional expense) pick a designated restaurant/bar that is between the church and your house and work it out with that establishment that your guests will be having a “layover” at their establishment. Maybe you could even negotiate happy hour prices for your guests since you will be sending 50-60 customers their way. Your guests can hang out and mingle while you take pics. Then everyone can arrive at your home at the designated time.