Post # 1
Does having a gap between the engagement ring and wedding ring bother you? Why or why not?
Did you do anything and everything possible to find a band that would sit flush?
Post pictures of your gap if you have one.
Post # 3
Technically I have a gap because my ERing flares out a bit at the centre… and we didn’t buy a Custom WBand to echo the flare.
But the flare is so small that I don’t think it is a big deal.
(Altho everytime I take my ERing in for Cleaning & Inspection my Family Jeweller / Goldsmith does remind me that he could have made me a custom one for about the same money I paid for my one from Peoples / Mappins / Zales.)
I do know that they say when two rings aren’t meant to be matched, that “the rubbing” can cause issues… and scratches. BUT I think these issues are greater for gals who have either Prong Settings or Pave ones… both my ERing & Sparkly WBand have Channel Settings, so the rubbing is metal-on-metal and not metal-on-stones / setting. Less of an issue I believe.
A regular over the counter chain store half-eternity band matched up perfectly otherwise in regards to look etc… so that is what we went with.
I am happy how my set looks…
BUT I am not “a gap” girl beyond this… so a bigger gap would certainly have bothered me. And I would have perhaps looked at getting something custom made, or if I had a different ring, then perhaps a Jacket / Wrap to compliment (ie if it was a regular solitaire)
Here are a couple of pictures:
PHOTO # 1 – ERing so you can see the flare at its best:
PHOTO # 2 – My ERing with my Sparkly WBand (Gap is most visible on the left-side in this pic)
(NOTE – I also have a Plain WBand as well, it matches my sparkly one perfectly… just no Diamonds)
Hope this helps,
Post # 4
PS… I didn’t vote… because I am conflicted.
I don’t like most Gaps, but my rings have one… so I do care most of the time
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club
I have a gap! And I love it 🙂 I actually like that you can tell there are two rings, whereas with some rings that sit flush, you can’t really tell.
Post # 6
I’m a no gap girl…so much so that this was one of my only requests in an e-ring — that it be set so that a wedding band will sit flush. However, one of my other requests was a lower-set ring…which isn’t an easy combination to come by, since many e-rings that allow a wedding band to sit flush are mounted fairly high (I have a solitaire). FI hit a home run and I got a beautiful setting that will allow a band to sit flush, but the diamond is not a high mount. He did well 🙂
Post # 7
A REALLY big gap would bother me, which is why we’re not using my promise ring as my engagement ring- it’s a halo that’s flat to my finger so the wedding band would be massively far away.
The engagement ring we’re designing is a cushion cut halo that’s high enough to fit my wedding band flush (or close enough) to the e-ring.
Post # 8
I have OCD. everything must match and be symmetrical, and gaps DRIVE ME CRAZY!
Post # 9
I’m a no gap girl myself although the gap doesn’t ALWAYS bother me, but it does a lot of the times. I actually am scared bc I dont think my e-ring will allow for a flush wedding band and it was one of my requests (and FI had my ring custom-made). I get the feeling there will be the tiniest of gaps, like a 1mm or something super duper thin that it will barely be noticeable and I likely won’t care.
Post # 10
I’m not a fan of most gaps. I grew up with my mother having two wedding sets that were meant to be worn together. Honestly it just seems pretty odd to me. Sometimes it does not bother me but for the most part I almost cringe when I see it.
Post # 11
I’ll have a gap! I get to rock it in 84 days!
Post # 12
I don’t have a gap, but I actually love them! I think they are really pretty, and very celeb-y, lol.
Post # 13
I have a gap between them. My prime concern was finding a wedding band where the width of the design matched the width of the three-stone portion of the engagement ring. The ring that worked best has a slight gap at one part of the ring which I thought would bother me, but it doesn’t.
Post # 14
I prefer mismatched sets in general. I’ve seen some matched sets that I liked, but mostly they give me the same feeling some of the PPs get from sets with a gap.
Post # 15
@GatsbyMama: I don’t like gaps. I’m planning on altering my ring to eliminate the bottom of my prongs so my w-band will sit flush.
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I have a gap! I like how it differentiates the e-ring from the band. Both heirloom pieces.