Post # 1
As we are working on our wedding planning, I shared with my fiance that I really don’t want to do a garter and bouquet toss. I’ve been to enough weddings where the DJ has to practically beg single girls to go out and catch the bouquet and I just don’t really feel like putting anyone in an awkward situation. Also, for some reason (and maybe this makes me crazy) but the whole garter toss thing has disturbed me, the whole idea of FI going up my dress in front of everyone, no thank you!
Luckily my FI is fine with eliminating both of these. However, would you find it weird if you went to a wedding and these traditions were left out? So far, I’m leaning towards giving the bouquet to a family member or the couple present that’s been married longest as a sweet gesture instead. Any other suggestions?
Post # 3
i personally did them and it was a lot of fun but i know a lot of brides are cutting it from the reception these days, i dont think there is anything wrong with that, and i dont think anyone will notice either.
we had an anniversary dance, where we had all the married couples come up and dance and then the DJ would call out years and people would gradually sit down until the last couple was standing – we gave the couple a bottle of wine, but the bouquet would be a great idea too!
Post # 4
I don’t think I would notice if they weren’t there. I kind of sort of a little tiny bit like the boquet toss…but at the last wedding I was at (the first I have been engaged for,) I was also REALLY happy that I didn’t have to get up for the boquet toss!
And I would definitely not miss the garter.
Post # 5
@LucyMegs140: My aunt cut both out of her wedding, I think because she wanted to have an ultra classy event where no one was going up anyone’s skirt and no one was scrambling to catch flowers. I will only throw my bouquet and not the ones I actually walked down the aisle with just a smaller one for tossing.
Post # 6
I’ve been to quite a few weddings where it wasn’t done. I noticed it the least when there were other games instead. I think it’s fine to leave it out, but do something fun to replace it otherwise the wedding does feel like it’s missing something. Anything that encourages everyone onto the dance floor usually gets the party going a little.
If there’s on a few single people at the wedding, they will probably be quite happy to not have it!
Post # 7
I’m tossing a lottery scratch off bouquet to all women (single or not) but I did cut the garter.
Post # 8
FI and I aren’t doing the bouquet or garter toss, either. But, I am still going to wear a garter. And, we are still getting a toss bouquet from our florist and dedicating it to the girl that introduced us.
Post # 9
We’re planning on not doing them either!
Post # 10
We’re not doing them either….or a cake cutting for that matter. I think it’s just a personal choice for each couple. I do get a toss bouquet for free and was just thinking last night about what I should do with it since it won’t be getting tossed. I love winklkr’s idea of giving it to the person who was there when we met. She’d love it!
Post # 11
We aren’t doing them. But that’s personal and all up to you guys.
Post # 12
We didn’t do it. I have the same feelings as you do. I have always hated being called out as single and made to go in the center of the room, so I didn’t want to do that to my friends and family. Also, there’s no need for my husband to go up my dress in front of my grandma. That’s just not ok with me.
Post # 13
@LucyMegs140: ummmm… for the garter, he really DOES NOT have to go “up under” your dress. It CAN be done with style and decorum. (My gown has a nice slit up to mid-thigh, so it’s PERFECT for a garter, but that’s an entirely different thing).
My SIL did the bouquet toss and we all knew who was going to catch it. Same with my cousin. NEITHER did the garter toss.
If you don’t want to do them, then don’t. There’s no rule saying you HAVE to have them. 🙂