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I was just thinking about this: every single wedding I have been to the garter has been fished out using the grooms teeth, so I figured it was just a "fun" thing to do at the wedding. But now I'm starting to think that people on the boards think that its not tasteful. So what do you think? I will reveal what I plan to do when I see what people think...
Honestly I think it is a personal preference. I've seen it done many ways, and they all made me laugh in a good way.
I really didn't want my husband going up my skirt in public, teeth or no.
I think it depends on the crowd and the couple....If you have a rowdy fun party crowd then go for it, if you have a more reserved, family crowd then I would advise against it... I personally think its a little tacky and so not necessary
I definitely think it depends on the couple and crowd. I went to a wedding where the taking off of the garter made me blush a little, but it worked for them. For me personally, I am uncomfortable thinking my grandparents and parents will watch my husband go up my dress.
The only thing that would have horrified 5-year-old me more than seeing a garter being removed, which set me against the garter toss TO THIS DAY, is seeing it removed with teeth.
Ick.
As a kid I found it super-gross and it made me uncomfortable, and I still feel that way. I think some of the older people in your crowd might feel the same way. If you like the idea of it and it makes you happy, go for it, but just know that it's probably going to eek a bunch of people out.
I am surprised with the answers-just because I have been to like 30 weddings since I was little and that's all I have seen. I will be letting my husband decide the way he will get the garter---which he told me he will be using his teeth.
But I have very non-traditional wedding plans, very outside the box, but def let me know what everyone thinks, I am just verrrry surprised!
I will have six year olds at my wedding too, but it really never irked me. I thought it was the way to be done when I was five.
I've only seen the garter removed by the teeth too, and one time the groom's hands were actually tied behind his back and he was blindfolded. So I just naturally assumed that's how it's done. Maybe if his head's going in, then the garter should be placed modestly at the knee, and the bride should be suitably seated on a chair. If any of the guests still complain, then they're just party poopers!
I have not seen the tied behind the back thing, hah. We seat the bride on the Best Man's back, the garter is only going to be at my knee and my grandparents/parents/his and mine are going to be there.
Wow, I've never seen a groom do this with his teeth. It seems strange to me to do that in front of family, grandparents.
I actually haven't seen anyone do the garter at all in recent years. I remember my older cousins doing it years ago.
His grandparents, however talk openly about their sex life, so I guess I cannot say that we are prudes, haha.
I have no problem with others doing it, I was just very uncomfortable with that idea at our reception with all of our family there.
If you've ever read any of my posts about sex/intimacy on the bee, you know I'm not at all a prude...I just find it weird to actually DO something that sexual in front of kids and grandparents (and you will often find me full-on making out with FI at parties, I just have a threshold).
veganglam Oh totally, I have read some of your stuff. Its totally fine I see where you wouldnt--I just think its funny that I have always thought that this was the "right" way to get the garter. LOL.
I researched a little on this topic. Maybe some of the anti-garter sentiments out there have to do with the history of it, which is quite crude actually...
"The garter toss is one of the oldest customs surviving wedding rituals. The garter toss became common at weddings in the 1500s in France. Originally, it was related to the concept of consummation of the marriage. The bridal party would approach the bride and groom’s bedroom for proof that the deed was accomplished.
They would then take an item of the bride’s clothing for good luck. This was often the garter used to hold up the bride’s stockings. The groomsman who retrieved the garter would then wear it in his hat for the remainder of the wedding celebration.
During the nineteenth century, as brides and grooms became uncomfortable with visitors in their chambers, the tradition evolved to that of the bride tossing her garter to the groomsmen before the end of the reception.
However, the men would often become violent competing for the garter and would sometimes tear at the bride’s dress or even flip her upside down to take the garter off before she had a chance."
I'm not wearing a garter, I plan on wearing a style of dress that would show the garter, and I think the whole teeth on garter thing is a little creepy. Keep it for the bedroom!
As of now, I'm planning just to skip the whole thing entirely. I may incorporate one into my outfit later in the evening when its just the two of us though lol ;)
The wording of the question is throwing me off with that "not". I wasn't sure if the choices are saying "yes, it is not tasteful" and "no, it's not not tasteful". Maybe that's what's throwing off the responses? Anywho, I answered yes as in, I find removing with teeth to be cringe-inducing. Hopefully I got it right :)
It's like what veganglam said that it crosses into actually acting something out in front of the fam (as opposed to making sexyjokes here and there)
You got it right, I thought the wording was off after I posted it too. (and I am an english major) hahaha.
I might wear a garter and my husband might remove it with his teeth, but it certainly won't happen at the reception in front of my dad, grandma, and great aunt Matilda.
As a wedding guest, watching the groom root around under the bride's dress just makes me uncomfortable (teeth or no teeth). So I vote "distasteful".
I love it - I think it is fun!
I will not have kids or grandparents at my wedding and 90% of my crowd will be in their late 20s! So it will just be a big party and that is a fun element we will be incorporating into it!
I would be super uncomfortable having FI UP MY SKIRT, digging around for something with his teeth, in front of my friends and family. I'm not a prude, either. I just think it's inappropriate. I'm skipping it.
I don't think there is anything wrong with it. It is fun and sexy and shows your guests how into you your groom is! It's not like you're getting down and dirty at the wedding...
Husband's head up my skirt is more "down and dirty" than I want to get in front of my grandparents (and my young, rowdy friends, for that matter).
Exactly. Plus, can you imagine how hot and sweaty you are under that dress?
I'm pretty sure my guests know I'm into my groom, evidenced by the fact that I married him.
I'm not sure how to answer the poll, lol. "Yes- it is not tasteful, and No- it is not tasteful seem like the same thing to me... I'm confused!
But we won't be doing any garter removal, with hands or teeth. It's just really not our style. We're pretty private people, and that just seems raunchy to me. Plus, my dress has a dropped hip and a slim cut, so there isn't really a big puffy skirt for him to get under anyway.
I think it's hilarious to see the brides get funny faced when the groom goes "up there", but does the groom really get it with his teeth is another thing. I think most people just assume the groom goes under the dress but reaches it with his hands and just puts it in his teeth, not that he actually grabs it with his teeth - right??? haha!
This is the worst part of weddings, in my opinion. I can't imagine the look of horror on my grandmothers faces as my FI head getting lost somewhere up my briday gown. I wouldn't be able to face my father, either. It makes me shake just thinking about it!
I find it to be inappropriate in the extreme. That isn't the kind of thing a grandparent or a father wants to see. It also isn't appropriate for a child.
It doesn't bother me when I go to other weddings, but I'm feeling kind of self-conscious about it at my own wedding. I agree, the weddings where I've seen it done, it's always been with teeth. Do what you feel comfortable with!
We're only having a garter toss because FH really wants it. So, I told him he couldn't do anything nasty or embarassing. If he won't agree, then I told him that I would just have my dress altered extra tight around the legs and have the garter on my calf!
Having my new husband going up my dress in public - not really something I want to subject myself to.
When my Mom got married, she also didn't want to do this, so she put the garter around her ankle.
I'm glad I have all your guys' opinions, just don't judge me when he goes up my dress.. HA. 
It's generally fun. Knowing my FI, I don't think he'd do it. He'd take it off pretty fast using his hands lol.
i think it's funny...and kinda sexy...your married no, so it's ok!
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lol happens to the best of us!
