(Closed) Garter Etiquette

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: FI using his teeth to take the garter off---wrong or not?
    YES! : (54 votes)
    57 %
    NO! : (40 votes)
    43 %
  • Post # 6
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    988 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think it depends on the crowd and the couple….If you have a rowdy fun party crowd then go for it, if you have a more reserved, family crowd then I would advise against it… I personally think its a little tacky and so not necessary

    Post # 7
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    368 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I definitely think it depends on the couple and crowd. I went to a wedding where the taking off of the garter made me blush a little, but it worked for them. For me personally, I am uncomfortable thinking my grandparents and parents will watch my husband go up my dress.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    The only thing that would have horrified 5-year-old me more than seeing a garter being removed, which set me against the garter toss TO THIS DAY, is seeing it removed with teeth. 

    Ick.

    As a kid I found it super-gross and it made me uncomfortable, and I still feel that way.  I think some of the older people in your crowd might feel the same way.  If you like the idea of it and it makes you happy, go for it, but just know that it’s probably going to eek a bunch of people out.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’ve only seen the garter removed by the teeth too, and one time the groom’s hands were actually tied behind his back and he was blindfolded.  So I just naturally assumed that’s how it’s done.  Maybe if his head’s going in, then the garter should be placed modestly at the knee, and the bride should be suitably seated on a chair.  If any of the guests still complain, then they’re just party poopers!

    Post # 13
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    722 posts
    Busy bee

    Wow, I’ve never seen a groom do this with his teeth. It seems strange to me to do that in front of family, grandparents.

    I actually haven’t seen anyone do the garter at all in recent years. I remember my older cousins doing it years ago.

    Post # 15
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    949 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I have no problem with others doing it, I was just very uncomfortable with that idea at our reception with all of our family there. 

    Post # 16
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    2196 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    If you’ve ever read any of my posts about sex/intimacy on the bee, you know I’m not at all a prude…I just find it weird to actually DO something that sexual in front of kids and grandparents (and you will often find me full-on making out with FI at parties, I just have a threshold). 

    Post # 18
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    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I researched a little on this topic.  Maybe some of the anti-garter sentiments out there have to do with the history of it, which is quite crude actually…

    “The garter toss is one of the oldest customs surviving wedding rituals. The garter toss became common at weddings in the 1500s in France. Originally, it was related to the concept of consummation of the marriage. The bridal party would approach the bride and groom’s bedroom for proof that the deed was accomplished.

    They would then take an item of the bride’s clothing for good luck. This was often the garter used to hold up the bride’s stockings. The groomsman who retrieved the garter would then wear it in his hat for the remainder of the wedding celebration.

    During the nineteenth century, as brides and grooms became uncomfortable with visitors in their chambers, the tradition evolved to that of the bride tossing her garter to the groomsmen before the end of the reception.

    However, the men would often become violent competing for the garter and would sometimes tear at the bride’s dress or even flip her upside down to take the garter off before she had a chance.”

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