Post # 1
Anyone else really creeped out/anxious about the garter toss? to me it just is odd that my fiance( then husband) would be going up my skirt in front of my whole family….. its not that im prude…. it just seems wierd…
ANyone else feel like this?
Post # 3
I agree. We did not do it at my wedding and NOBDOY missed it.
We also did not throw the bouquet. I made a DIY brooch bouquet.
I didn’t have any flowers at all at my wedding and thought it was silly to buy a bouquet just to toss it!
Post # 4
@Jen51287: I wa that way, but He and I talkeda bout it, and he’s not goign to be crude about it so I think I’ll be okay with it
Post # 5
We chose not to. I hated the idea and while the DJ we had was great and wouldn’t make any innappropriate comments (we had a LOT of kids at our wedding), I just don’t like it. Plus, my dress was heavy! It was going to be sweaty and nasty. I did have one I put on just for DH when we got back to our hotel room and he was helping me take off my heels. He liked that surprise a lot 🙂
Post # 6
It felt weird to me at first. Then I thought about how I was likely going to be tipsy by then, and I was WAY more okay with it!
Of course, now we’re having a luncheon, so no garter toss for us!
Post # 7
We aren’t doing either the bouquet or garter toss. The decision was mostly based on the fact that I hate being forced to participate in those things at weddings and I never actually love the pictures, even though some brides say that’s why you should do it. So you aren’t alone!
Post # 8
Definitely the creepiest, most unnecessary wedding tradition. Go up the bride’s dress in front of all her relatives, peel off a piece of her underwear and throw to your single buddies. Gross. Not happening at my wedding.
Post # 9
The idea of it makes me REALLY uncomfortable. I don’t want my new husband going up my skirt and removing an undergarment in front of anyone! I will wear one as a surprise for him, in our room after, where no one will see it!!
When we started planning, and I mentioned the boquet toss, my mom replied “you aren’t throwing the garter, right? It makes people very uncomfortable!” So that made me feel better that we’d already decided no! Also, I’ve only ever seen it done at one wedding (and I’ve been to many!) I don’t think anyone will miss it!
Post # 10
yes we both feel that way and aren’t prude or super traditional or anything, it’s just awkward and i’ve seen it go bad way too many times. we’re not going to be doing it.
Ii also hate being forced to participate in them (there’s always people at your table pushing you up there), and I don’t want to subject my friends and family to that. We’re not going to be having tons of single people anyways, so we just decided to get rid of the whole thing.
Post # 12
We are doing it, but we are also kind of making fun of it. I am going to have a pouch sewn into my dress (ball gown), and he will pull other items out like a rubber chicken, a bunch of scarves tied together, etc. He is going to wear a snorkling mask. We think it will be funny.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park
We are going to do the garter toss. At first I was against it because of how many family members were going to be there. After looking more at the guest list, I realized how many of our friends are younger (20-25) and single. I kind of thought “what the hell. Let’s do it.” However, this isn’t saying I won’t be blushing the entire time.
Post # 14
Don’t do anything you don’t want to do. At least where I am, it’s common to have a bouquet toss but not a garter toss. (Though we did neither).
Post # 15
I did it beacuse I was all gung-ho on every wedding tradtion..
oh man I wish I had scrapped it.
it was so akward. EVERYONE was trying to look away awkwardly with out being disrespectful to the fact we were the center of attention. Shooting the garter off was fun but not having him get it out from under my skirt.
I really hope it dies out one day.