Post # 1
Having a small intimate wedding, I have lots of single girls coming, but fiance’s friends are mostly married. We want to kind of omit the garter toss, but does this mean we to cut out the bouquet toss too! Any alternatives to a garter toss?
Post # 2
We are foregoing the garter toss and only doing the bouquet toss. I think that’s actually pretty common nowadays, at least from recent weddings that I’ve attended. Don’t feel that you need to replace it with anything either!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2019 - Chilworth Manor, Hants, UK
You can do a bouquet toss without the garter toss. I am.
Post # 4
I just did the bouquet toss. I did NOT want to do the garter. lol
Post # 5
We didn’t do the bouquet or garter toss. We had an anniversary dance. Gave bouquets to the couples that were married longest, shortest (besides us) and had a tie for longest.
I didn’t have many single people at the wedding.
Post # 6
Were not doing either, but you can certainly JUST do the bouquet toss. Just please dont force anyone on the floor who doesnt willingly want to be there!
Post # 7
I’m not sure I’ve seen a garter toss very often so you can definitely have one without the other.
I’m doing neither. I’m not comfortable with the garter toss, it’s a bit tacky in my opinion and I hate the bouquet toss. I was always happily single at weddings and would go by myself but whenever that toss would happen, everyone would hound me to participate and I’d always feel just awful about it.
please don’t force anyone to participate in the bouquet toss! LOL
Post # 8
jellybellynelly : ha just said the Same thing! I used to dread it
Post # 9
None of your female guests want to chase after a bouquet.
Odds are your male guests also find the garter awkward af.
Skip it. No one will miss it.
Post # 10
We’re doing the flower toss but not doing the other for sure. Instead FI will be singing to me.
Post # 11
I did neither. I used to cringe so hard at these things at weddings.
No I do not want your bouquet and I doubt anyone wants your undergarments
Post # 12
I actually completely forgot about the garter until after the wedding! It wasn’t missed.lol Neither of my sisters did one either, we all three just did the bouquet toss!
Post # 13
I’m so glad this post happened because we don’t have a ton of single friends either, and it’s humiliating as a guest to feel forced into desperately trying to catch a bouquet!
When I told my mom we didn’t want to do the bouquet/garter toss, she got SO mad and it caused a pretty big argument… why is it such a big deal? It’s a stupid antiquated tradition that doesn’t have any real meaning to us as a couple (not that I judge other couples that do it, it’s just not for us). Why are people so sensitive about this??
Post # 14
No one is going to care. No one will miss it. Everyone will be thankful it wasn’t a part of your wedding.
Post # 15
I’ve never been to a wedding with a garter toss.
Some have had bouquet tosses, some not.