Garter Toss & Bouquet

posted 2 weeks ago in Traditions
Post # 16
419 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We skipped both, after a certain age it’s an insult to your single friends. 🙄

Post # 17
4035 posts
Honey bee

We’ve been married 40 years and I didn’t toss anything. Neither of my daughters tossed anything, nor have couples in their social circle. The last time I saw a bouquet tossed – about 5 years ago, no one went out on the dance floor to participate and it dropped on the floor. A woman sitting at a table next to the dance floor picked it up.

The last time I saw a garter tosed was about 15 years ago. It was at an elegant wedding, at a swanky hotel. The band played “The Stripper” and everyone was rolling their eyes. Some activities should be left to die-off.

Post # 18
909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We did both. DH crawled to me to take the garter off. So funny!! 

Post # 19
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’m not doing either but I’ve been to enough weddings that have only done bouquet.

Post # 20
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Like someone else has mentioned, I think you can skip the garter toss and not have to replace it with anything else, and you can skip the bouquet toss if you wanted to. I agree that depending on the group of people, its sometimes awkward to participate in both. 


Post # 21
1245 posts
Bumble bee

I remember being horrified the first time I saw a garter toss.  

I find the bouquet toss kind of sexist and silly so we are omitting both.

Post # 22
40 posts
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m not doing either – I have hated in the past specifically getting called out by brides on the mic “I know you’re single, get on the dance floor!” and being forced to participate in the toss. So humiliating!

The last wedding I went to just did a bouquet toss (no garter) and made it unisex – they asked for ALL the single people to come participate. The guys found it novel and fun and participated along with the ladies, and I thought that was the best ‘toss’ I’d seen at a wedding. 

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