Post # 1
Hello Wedding Bee Readers!
My wedding is coming up and I’m debating the whole garter/bouquet toss debacle. I’m not a fan of throwing the bouquet – given that most of our guests are married and our single ladies in attendance would prefer not to call attention to their single status. That said, my groom has no objections to doing the garter toss – he says all of the guys will be uncomfortable because they are uncomfortable anyway! I’ll be replacing the bouquet toss with the anniversary dance (we have a lot of long-marriages in attendance).
Would it be awkward to do the garter toss but not toss the bouquet?
Post # 3
I think you can do the garter toss without the bouquet toss. I say if your groom really wants to do it, go for it!
Post # 4
It’s fine to do one, both or neither toss.
Post # 5
I’m actually in the opposite situation. I’m not a big fan of the garter toss (can’t really wear one with my mermaid dress anyway), but am fine with doing the bouquet toss. I think it’s fine to do whatever you want!
Post # 6
In general I’d say both or neither, but really… its your wedding. If your groom wants to and you are ok with it – toss away!
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2010 - Mr. P's GrandparentsÃ¢Â€Â™ Ranch
I think it’s all about what you want to do, I’ve seen wedding with only bouquet toss, so I don’t see why it shouldn’t be the other way around 😉
Post # 8
Does he really want to do it or is he just indifferent to it? I usually would prefer all or nothing.
Post # 9
I have to agree, I think you can do what you want. Nowadays just about anything is acceptable. It is all about what you and your groom are comfortable with.
I am also opting out of the bouquet toss for the same reasons. So we will be doing the anniversary dance as well for both.
Post # 10
Ok the failings in trying to plan my own wedding with the last one I have been to being when I was 5 years old.
I know about tossing the bocay but what is a garter toss? well that is ovious throwing the garter but when, why, and how?
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
We’re doing goofy spins on both.
Garter toss (four total — one in each of our wedding colors) to all the guys…the catcher gets a penny.
Bouquet toss (again four, and again to ALL the ladies), and the catcher gets a scratch-off lotto ticket.
Bouquet and garter catchers pair up based on color (green garter with green bouquet, etc.) to scratch off the lotto tickets!
Post # 12
I think it’s weird to toss the garter but not the bouquet. People generally skip just the garter toss because, well, the whole thing with the guy going up the skirt can be a little racy for some crowds. If you’re doing the garter toss, you might as well throw the bouquet.
Post # 13
the garter toss is so fun! and funny! I think doing it and an anniversary dance would be great! but if you get chants for a bouquet toss you should definitely do one!!!
Post # 14
When I read the title of your topic I went: Why??!! but I understand you don´t want to make the single girls uncomfortable.
Honestly I would skip both, it´s not like the guys are going to miss the garter toss, right? … If I were a guess I thought it was weird to have one without the other.
Post # 15
You get to do whatever you want- one, either, both, or neither! We skipped both, and nobody mentioned it. We’re a little older though, and most of our friends are married. It was a big anniversary for my parents, so we had a special anniversary dance dedicated to them as a surprise, so that was kind of instead of the tosses.