Post # 1
I don’t know if I want to have garter toss at my wedding. It just seems a little gross and wierd to me. It is almost like the groom is taking off your underwear and throwing it at a bunch of men. Am I being crazy? Can I still have a bouquet toss if I don’t do a garter toss? What are good alternatives to a garter toss?
Post # 3
We didn’t have either the bouquet or the garter toss. They both seem creepy and sexist. We skipped them all together and I don’t think anyone missed anything.
Post # 4
FI and are slightly older and there aren’t going to be that many single people at our wedding soooooo we are doing a bouquet toss but I am having all the ladies out for the toss and then we are skipping the garter all together and my FI is throwing a soft (stuffed) softball to all the guys. We met while playing softball so it fits “us”. And whomever catches the bouquet and the softball gets a prize pack with stuff that is related to us… some gift cards and other things we like/use a lot.
Post # 5
We’re doing the bouquet toss but not the garter toss. I just feel weird about it and really awkward, and that’s not the way I want to feel on my wedding day lol. My mom and FMIL were both mad I didn’t want to though, for whatever reason.
Post # 6
It’s always the most awkward and creepy moment at the wedding. If I wanted to have a man go up my skirt and then throw off my underware in public, I’d be a stripper (and making good money for it).
Post # 7
I was okay with doing a garter toss, but when I explained it to my mom (who was born and raised in Iran, moved to the states in her mid-20s, so, from a different culture), she was mortified. “He has to stick his head under your skirt??? No way you’re doing that in front of your grandmother” I thought it would be cute and awkward for everyone involved. I love cute and awkward. Guess I’m not though! haha. I’m not too heartbroken about it though. Seems like nobody really likes it anyway.
Post # 8
Earlier this year I went to a wedding where they had a garter toss, but the DJ announced that the groom had removed it privately before the reception and he tossed it without having to rummage under the bride’s skirts. We’re skipping the garter toss, but I think that they did it was a tasteful alternative.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies! Its good to know im not the only one
Post # 10
I hate the whole tradition (bouquet and garter) so nope, we didn’t do them. We had an anniversary dance instead and it was a definite crowd pleaser.
Post # 11
We skipped the garter and boquet toss at our wedding, I always find them to be the most awkward part of the wedding reception!
Post # 12
We’re doing both. I think if done tastefully it’s a cute tradition. We have talked about it and I have made it clear that I don’t want him taking forever down there, and nothing is to be removed with teeth. Yuck.
Post # 13
So awkward!!! I really don’t want his head up my dress in front of my friends and family. I hate the bouquet toss, too.
Post # 14
Several years ago I was a bridesmaid for a friend who did a garter toss. I ended up catching the bouquet, much to my horror, and having to climb onto a stage and have my girl-pal’s garter put on my leg by the guy who’d caught it— who just happened to be another good friend of mine. Awwwwwkward! It was really an unpleasant experience and not one I’d want to inflict on any of my guests!
Post # 15
I’m not doing the bouquet or garter toss. It’s just not my style.
Post # 16
No, I won’t doing one. It’s a small and intimate backyard wedding. Most of our guests will be engaged or already married.