(Closed) GAWD..she’s driving me nuts!

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Wow – I will have to catch up on your other posts – although (not in her defense, just pointing out) most people I know go for a at least one meeting before getting married, in fact some churches/offciants require it – so maybe she’s just trying to suggest what she thinks you might have found obvious?

 I’ll go read your other posts tonight – try not to kill anyone 😉

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Maybe it would give you two a chance to discuss what to do about her!!

FI and I have actually been having lots of fun with our premarital counseling.  It’s really interesting to see how the other person answers questions about your relationship, families, dealing with everyday stuff like money and housework, and also dealing with problems.  FI has said some very sweet things that I never would have thought were in his head – and also some totally weird things that I completely didn’t understand, and we have spent lots of time talking about things that we never thought about discussing before.  We really look forward to every session.  And we’re not doing it because we thought we had any problems, but just (as sweeney says) because our officiant does it as part of the process of getting to know us and what we are about.

So while I’m sure that she doesn’t mean it in a good way, it actually might be a good idea.  And wouldn’t it be fun to thank her for her wonderful suggestion and tell her how the process has really affirmed your love for each other and your commitment to each other.  Since I’m sure she means to be catty and mean, it might totally throw her to have you take it and make a really good thing out of it.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I second what suzanno said: pre-marriage counseling isn’t a bad thing. My FH and I took a 5 week marriage prep course and it really helped us with communicating with each other (which is amazing, given that we’re both fairly introverted, private people) and we learned things about each other that probably wouldn’t have been learned until after a spat. I personally think that marriage prep only will make one’s relationship stronger and help each person to really understand the other, which is never a bad thing

 Good luck!

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
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  • 10 years ago

She might have suggested it to bother you but beyond that premarital counselling is not that bad. If you were a catholic you would be required to go through a marriage course and get a certificate before you get married in a church.

Counselling is not only when things are wrong. 😉

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