- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
My grandmother and my mom have both brought up my weight in the past few weeks. I know that this is a pretty common topic for brides, but… Gah!
My mom actually brings up my weight all the dang time… She’s mostly vegan (otherwise vegetarian) and does yoga pretty consistently… But she used to be bigger than me about a year ago. I was vegetarian until I started dating my FI, and I’ve put on a decent amount of weight in the past year. A lot of it is muscle, but I also have bigger hips/ lovehandles and boobs than ever before.
I know my mom is just trying to get me to be more health-conscious, but it’s pretty obnoxious. Especially when she tries to give me her old clothes telling me “they just fall right off of me now, but they’ll MAYBE fit you when you lose a few pounds.”
My grandmother the other day brought up two points at random. She asked 1. How my FI felt about me being “fat” and 2. that I need to lose some weight before I “start having babies”.
My FI loves my body and I’ve always been comfortable in my own skin. I’m not morbidly obese, and if I can get heads to turn when I’m dressed up and looking cute, I think I’m doing okay. (Sorry if that sounded cocky.)
If FI and I decide to have kids (currently we think it’s a bad idea since we’re in our 20’s and broke, but we’d like to maybe in the future), then yeah, a lot of things have to change… My diet, vitamin intake, and excercise routine would change up. I wouldn’t want to bring someone into this world predisposed to health issues.
I never thought twice about losing weight for the wedding until these past few days. I know that it’s a day to celebrate our love for each other, but I guess I’m afraid that my mother and grandmother (and maybe FMIL and a few others) might look up at me standing at the altar and think “Geez, how did a whale fit into a wedding dress?”
Kidding, kind of.
I don’t even know what I’m looking for here as far as advice goes. FI thought it was stupid that I’m upset about this… He said the typical (but adorable) thing for a fiance to say in this situation: “You’ll look beautiful no matter what, but I love you the way you are right now.” I just… I dunno. Bleh.
I think this is the first time I’ve felt really self-concsious about myself since maybe middle school.