Post # 1
Continuation from link above… I’m sorry if you can’t click on link. I’m on my phone.
So I told my mom we’re engaged. It has been 4 days and still no heart felt congratulation. Not even a congratulation! And today she finally showed me she really doesn’t care. I mentioned how she doesn’t even acknowledge my engagement. She said, “It’s just a ring. What do you want from me?” Now I know my engagement means nothing to her and not taking us seriously. On the other hand, my dad is so happy. He already told the family and everyoneis congratulating me. We are having Dinner today, my dad, FI and I to talk about our plans. But my mom’s side has not said anything to me 1.) because she probably hasn’t told anyone, so they don’t know and/or 2.) My mom is not taking it seriously, brainwashed and told them not so nice things about our relationship, so they are not taking it seriously either because she’s not making it a big deal about it.
So I have decided to not include her in any of my plans and just avoid her as much as I can. It really sucks but I’m tired of making her relevent iny life.
Post # 3
That sucks and I’m sorry. I went through something similar with my mom when I first got engaged. She found out through a mouthy friend on Facebook, called me, told me she hoped it was a joke and refused to acknowledge the fact that I was even engaged for almost a year. Eventually, she came around. Maybe your mom will do the same?
I think you’re doing right in not including her right now. You don’t need that kind of negativity while you should be thrilled and over the moon.
I hope things get better for you!
Post # 4
First of all: Congratulations! This is a happy time for you; soak up all the happiness you are getting from your father’s side of the family.
From your previous thread, it seems like your mom is jealous, which is really strange, but it’s been known to happen before. Give her time to accept the fact that you’re engaged.
You don’t have to include her in anything. Just spend time with positive people who will encourage you in your planning!
Post # 5
@SouthernGirl: Thank you! She just made my engagement sour. I can’t enjoy it and I haven’t. But now I can’t let her get to me because she’s causing problems between my FI and I. And we don’t argue! Its only always about her if we do get into a bad mood. We don’t even argue with each other, she just makes everything bitter for us.
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Post # 7
@echolove: Very weird, but your Mom is jealous. Yikes! Take it as a compliment, focus on your Dad who is willing to share your happiness, and she can be a guest if she chooses to. Don’t let anyone rain on your parade! If you know it’s right then that’s all that matters. Congrats!