So I would like a blue sapphire ring, but I was wondering if people would actually ask me if it's an engagement ring and why isn't it a diamond..
Has this ever happened to you?
I have a champagne sapphire, and no one has ever questioned if it is an engagement ring, or asked me why it isn't a diamond. Maybe I am just lucky to have never run into someone who would ask that.
Go for the blue sapphire! They are gorgeous.
I have a blue topaz and no one has questioned if it's an engagement ring. I was worried about this too. So far though the only thing I have gotten was how lovely it is :)
Not a gemstone, but I have a yellow diamond and people asked me a lot at first. It's pretty bright so I guess that's why.
Well, when I told my mother that we had picked out the perfect sapphire ring she said "Oh, so, it's not an engagement ring." in such a let down pathetic tone for a second I had forgotten that she offended me and just felt sorry for her. I let it go and it stewed for a few days until I blew up and informed her that she was a product of a diamond society and that sapphires were not only my birthstone but the original engagment ring and that of Princess Diana. She felt like crap as a result of my speech and she also admitted that my tastes have always been more on the eccentric and less on the classic so it made perfect sense :)
A lot of my dating-but-not-engaged friends wear rings on their left ring finger. I have asked a few of them if they were engaged. I don't see anything wrong with asking. So far the only answer I've gotten is, "No." One girl has been with her guy 5-6 years
@Loves a Fire: exactly! when i think e-ring the first I ever think of is Lady D's ring! infact I want something similar! But I never heard people thinking that only diamonds are e-rings until I went to the states this summer
I'm gonna be rockin' a beautiful blue Sapphire in April. I've shown close friends and was prepaed for a bad reaction. They loved it and didn't say anything negative. if you love it that's all that matters.
I have an aquamarine but no one has ever asked me if it's an engagement ring. Probably because it's a pretty traditional design? Mostly people just tell me how much they love it!
I have an alexandrite and I have never been asked if it's my ering but if they did I would just say 'Yes, isn't it gorgeous' and leave it at that. Honestly, what does it matter what other people think?
Granted I have a white sapphire and no ones ever asked. But a few of my girlfriends rock gemstone rings and I havent heard anyone ask them if they were ering or not.
I have a purple amethyst and no one's ever questioned it. I only get compliments for it.
I think any ring will do as an engagement ring as long as it is given with love. In Europe many engagement ring are just plain bands, in gold, white gold or even silver. Diamonds in engagement rings became "populair"in the forties, before a gemstone was very common.
I have a ruby, no one has ever asked me if I'm engaged. Some have said "how unusual" in an admiring tone, and a few women have confided that they would really have preferred a coloured gemstone e-ring. No one has ever said anything negative or rude about my ring.
I have a blue sapphire and I have never heard anything other than "what a beautiful engagement ring!" or "he did well!"
I have a pink sapphire ring, and no one ever asked if it is an e-ring. People really seem to like it!
@walnutgirl: I'm sure it's fine, especially once you wear a wedding ring with it.
I've heard sapphires were used as engagement rings historically, so I think it's fine!
@canarydiamond: That's what I've heard too! Also if you wear it on your ring finger no matter the stone I'd assume it's an engagement ring, but often on here I read people saying to girls that they will regret getting a gem instead of a diamond bc people don't consider it an e-ring
@walnutgirl: I'm probably going to get a yellow diamond. I am sure some people will ask what it is, but as long as they're polite, I am fine w. answering their Qs. I can see how some rings might be mistaken for promise rings or just normal ring, but I think sapphires are pretty safe. And they're so pretty!
In the end, if some people don't think you're married, who cares? Some married couples don't wear rings at all. I think if it's a stone that makes your heart sing, then go for it :D
I have a blue sapphire. No one in my family would question it or ask why it isn't a diamond as sapphires are kind of a 'thing' with us. I haven't had any strangers ask about it but I'm pretty sure they'd be smart enough to figure it out since it's on my wedding finger.
I can't remember where I read it and it may be a load of codswallop but I read that Sapphires used to be used in engagement rings a lot more/before diamonds were. Oh just scrolled up and saw someone else just said the same thing!
Honestly who cares if someone thinks it's not suitable or it isn't an engagement ring, you know what it is and you know what it means to you.
Well... I wear gemstone rings nearly every single day. I'm rarely without a ring of some sort. I'm right handed and when I wear rings on my right hand it bugs the heck out of me, so they always go on my left hand, and pretty much always on my left hand finger. It's what's most comfortable and my finger is a 6.5/7 so I never have to have it resized. But I don't get asked if it's an engagement ring unless I show up to work with a new one, and it's like people are just checking hehe. Everyone who knows me knows I'm always wearing rings so they're used to it.
So some people will think it is an e-ring, others wont. They may or may not ask. Diamonds are obviously very common for e-rings, but other gems are getting very common so people are probably just curious.
I have a blue sapphire in a diamond halo. I've never been asked if its an e-ring, although I do get a ton of comments of "Oh, you have a ring like Kate's." 
Neither the shape nor the setting are particularly like hers, but I think that is the association a lot of people have with blue sapphire e-rings.
@windblownhair: Can i see your ring? It sounds like the one i want :)
I've been asked if mine is an engagement ring or just a misunderstanding of the meaning of the ring. I have a blue sapphire claddagh ring. Now that I'm married and wear the wedding band with it no one will ask but rather make snarky comments on how small or weird it is. I just put it down to people being raised by a pack of wolves that never learned any manners. Here's mine
I have a diamond engagement ring that I wear on my left ring finger, and people STILL ask me if it's an engagement ring. People just ask awkward questions no matter what you have, it seems.
rockin a blue sapphire myself! its beautiful and people always comment on how different it is :) 
@walnutgirl: I have a blue sapphire ring and I've had people say "oooh! i love your ring! is it an engagement ring?" so they'll question it in that manner, but they never ask "is it a promise ring?" if that makes sense. :)
I do get a lot of "ooh like prince kate!" and it's totally not. it's not even the same shape. (mine is just a circle) but i just smile and say mmhmmm. haha
I have a purple sapphire. I've never been asked if its an engagement ring. People do ask what the stone is however. A couple of people thought amethyst and were shocked it was a sapphire especially considering the size as its large, and another couple thought it was a diamond due to the cut making it almost as sparkly. I told them it was a sapphire too :). I love my sapphire she's gorgeous.
My SO has a citrine! No one has made a negative comment about it but then again, most people haven't said anything either way! Oh well, it's the one she really wanted!
@windblownhair: I'm starting to feel immense jealousy of your sets. Beautiful, just beautiful.
I have a ruby solitaire and I've seen a few furrowing eyebrows and been asked some questions. Not that it bothers me at all- this is the exact ring I asked for and I love it!
I am, however, pretty excited to rock the wedding band with it in 5 months...I think that it will make the set look more "bridal"
I have a yellow sapphire engagement ring and the I've had people say "Oh wow, that's beautiful! Is it an engagement ring?" Which is very rare and I'm sure even people with diamonds have been asked, mostly because some people will want to draw attention to your ring and will be genuinely curious as to whether it's an engagement ring so they can talk about it without causing offence.
People have asked me (strangers) but I think it's because I'm so young. It's only a promise ring though, I won't be actually engaged for another year or so.
Mine is a RHR, however, I want it as an engagement ring because i LOVE it so much!! :)
@windblownhair: It's very similar to what i want! so beautiful!!
I have an opal and pink sapphire ring and no one has seen it and then questioned that it's an engaegment ring. Of course, usually when people see it it's after asking me to see my ring, and then they've ALWAYS responded by saying it's unique and beautiful: I haven't gotten any judgement about it being "not traditional". I can't tell you if random people down the street think it's an e-ring or not, but I would assume they would too (or wouldn't even think about it at all, which is more likely). So I wouldn't worry and get the ring you love!!
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