Gemstone engagement ring blues…

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Aw, I’m sorry. If someone said they needed to show me something, then held out their left hand with a ring on it, I would presume they were engaged- colored gemstone or not! So silly of people to think a diamond is the only thing that means engaged.

Post # 4
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It’s really too bad that our culture and society has brainwashed people to believe so strongly that a diamond is the only choice for an engagement ring.  I just sneaked a peak at your Ruby and it is lovely and gorgeous.  And it is so special that there is so much meaning in it for you and your fiance. Truly special. Diamonds are beautiful but colored gemstones are also beautiful.  I don’t think they should be shunned as engagement ring options! It’s good you are secure in your choice for a Ruby.  I’m sorry others are not as openminded as you.  Don’t let it get you down ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
1 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

That’s too bad that people are reacting that way. I, too, chose not to have a diamond in favor of a beautiful, unique ring with very special significance to both of us. It’s made out of intricately worked gold and doesn’t have a gem at all, so it’s even more confusing! People notice it because it’s different and often ask me leading questions about it – and are very positive when I tell them it’s my engagement ring – but they rarely flat-out assume that I’m engaged. I usually assume that they’re just being polite. After all, you don’t want to say someone’s engaged when they’re not! Maybe in the last case you talked about, your friends’ admiration of your ring was a way to lead into a conversation about it without jumping to conclusions.

In any case, enjoy your ring, your fiancé and being engaged! By the way, what are you planning to do once you have your wedding ring? I can’t put my engagement one on the same finger as the wedding band and am trying to figure out what to plan for.

Post # 6
1140 posts
Bumble bee

sommertime couldn’t have said it better myself. I agree.

When I hear something like this, I just cop it down to people are stupid. Most people are like sheep, follow the norm, don’t ask questions and don’t know why they want the things they want. I am a diamond lover (partly because it’s my birthstone), but completely understand why someone would want something else as their engagement ring or wedding band. Don’t let it bother you, they are just ignorant.  

Post # 8
224 posts
Helper bee

omg Kate/Princess Di’s ring is absolutely stunning. i’d totally throw in the ‘well it was good enough for Princess Diana….’ comment if they say anything negative!

the cheek!

Post # 9
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012


I knew ahead of time that my ring was going to be a gemstone and I was dreading showing people it for this very reason.  My ring is a peridot, so a bright, limey green center stone.  And I LOVE this ring (I picked it out afterall) but I am also annoyed at everyone’s expectations.  I’ve been engaged for a few months now so everyone’s shock and horror has worn off now that everyone has seen it.  But I totally and completely understand your feelings.  Here, I’ve attached a picture so you can see all the horror that is my e-ring, lol

Post # 11
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sorry you’ve been dealing with that! I have a gemstone as well (sapphire) and luckily, have heard generally positive things from everyone (although, I do get the, “well, that’s different!” comments thrown in there too). I’m always clear to everyone that asks that this is EXACTLY what I wanted!

Post # 12
1319 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I get that sometimes, and I do have a diamond center stone. It’s got two sapphires on the sides of the diamond, and when I showed it to my friends, I was less than pleased with the responses. The funny part is, people older than me love it. It’s the people my age, that probably have only really seen e-rings on TV, that are like, “Oh…are those sapphires? But that’s not your birthstone…Why’d you pick those? It’s nice…I’m glad you like it, I mean you picked it, right?” But I love it, and that’s all that matters.

Post # 13
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence

I think it’s crazy that people point that stuff out! I have an amethyst engagement ring and nobody has said anything to me… but I’ve seen some strange looks, for sure. i don’t really understand why people care, frankly, and I didn’t want a diamond.

Keep your head up! I bet your ring is gorgeous!

@butterfli_beauty:  I love your ring! I really wanted something green for mine. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Some people just can’t handle anything but the standard! There are many ladies on here with lovely gemstone e-rings, you’ll learn to love the confused look people get when you inform them that you didn’t actually want a diamond *gasp*! haha.

Post # 15
2 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

I believe in Greece the women wear a pearl as an engagement ring.  Just think, if the monopoly that owns the diamond mines in Africa is ever broken up, your ruby is more rare so it will be worth MORE! And thats tough for me to say as my ring is a diamond….I’m sorry for the people around you, but I absolutely LOVE the meaning behind your beautiful ring ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@rubybride718:  If someone said that to me I would correct them and tell them that actually a top-color natural ruby costs far more than a diamond of the same size. Rubies are rare, incredible stones. Forget the haters!

If it makes you feel any better, I have probably the most traditional engagement ring possible (round diamond of about a carat in a white gold solitaire setting) and when people look at it they don’t know what to say about it, I think because it’s so basic. (Which is actually what I love about it, so it’s fine.) So whether you have something traditional or nontraditional you will always get some weird comments. You just have to roll with it and love your ring but I do understand your frustration.

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