(Closed) Gender Reveal AND/OR Baby Shower?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Gender Reveal vs. Baby Shower
    Gender Reveal Only : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Baby Shower Only : (37 votes)
    40 %
    Combine Gender Reveal & Baby Shower in One : (30 votes)
    33 %
    Have Gender Reveal AND Baby Shower Separately : (23 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    2622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If your going to do a gender reveal, I think its something more suited to the absolutely closest people in your life. Meaning immediate family and best friend (one or two).

    Think about it, would you want to be required to dedicate two afternoons to a friend, but not a best friend for these events in your busy life? And while yo uwould be excited for a friend, would you really be so excited over her babys gender if it wasnt your absolute best friend? so excited in fact that it deserves its own party?

    A shower is for people that are important, but not all the most important in your life. 

    Not to mention logistically, buying for a baby shower is easier when you know the gender so if you reveal ahead of time it would be easier for the guests as well as host to decorate

    Post # 4
    1081 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I really wanted to do a gender reveal party (who can resist, all the ideas on Pinterest are so adorable!) but I do think it can be a bit much to do a baby shower and a gender reveal, and I would much rather have a baby shower for my first one.  I plan on saving the “big” gender reveal party for kid #2 since you don’t usually do showers for the second baby.  We still might do something small with family, but I don’t know since my side of the family lives hours away… I am probably just going to do one of the “gender reveal” things from pinterest (like balloons coming out of a box, something) and post the photo on Facebook.  

    Also, there’s no way I think I could wait until a gender reveal party to find out, when I am there having that ultrasound done and they say “do you want to know the sex?” I have a big giant feeling I will just be like…OMG YES PLEASE NOW I DON’T WANT TO WAIT A SECOND LONGER! Haha.. so any gender revealing will be just for friends/family anyways.  

    Post # 5
    7234 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    My cousin just had her second and they did both parties. The gender reveal was just a BBQ with all the cousins and we wore whatever color coincided with the gender we thought it would be. We’re a super tight-knit family, though. If I were from a different family, I’d probably just do a gender reveal with the grandparents, aunts & uncles and maybe best friends. 

    Def don’t do a gender reveal and baby shower together! People only like to buy nuetral stuff when the parents don’t know the gender! 

    Post # 6
    4355 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Baby shower only.. MAYBE gender reveal with the grandparents if we were finding out. No big party for that though.

    Post # 7
    1760 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If you were to combine the parties into 1, you would need to register for all gender neutral items so that guests wouldn’t figure it out before hand.  We did a tiny ‘gender reveal’ for our parents, but thats because its the first grandbaby on 1 side, and on my side it’s the first planned (nephew is almost 16 years old).  

    Post # 8
    1145 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Combine the two if you don’t want gender specific gifts, do separate ones if you want gender specific gifts. I say do two if someone wants to host your baby shower.

    Post # 9
    7372 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Unless you’re expecing something other than a boy or a girl, a “gender reveal” is super superfluous.

    Post # 10
    14337 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’d combine or just do the baby shower.  Honestly, a baby is a baby to me, if it’s not my own I don’t really care what gender it is. They’re both equally exciting and the news of one or the other doesn’t really matter so a gender reveal just seems pointless to me.

    Post # 11
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m not pregnant but I think I’d like to do a small gender reveal dinner with just our immediate families (less than 10 of us), and then have my actual shower later on. I think it would be fun to find out with the people that are closest to us. I wouldn’t expect gifts or anything at the dinner.


    PS you got married on my bday and your EDD is the same as my SILs! I think I like you 😉

    Post # 12
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    @pinkshoes:  +1.

    Just do a baby shower.  If you’re dead set on having a gender reveal, combine the parties, but that means only registering for gender neutral items.  Two separate parties is too much.

    Post # 13
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Baby shower only.

    Post # 15
    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @moniquaa:  In my world: A gender reveal is more of an intimate party for close friends and immediate family so you can “reveal” the gender; this is done within a few days or weeks of the gender reveal appointment with the doctor and usually involves a cake and meal but no gifts.  A baby shower is done during the third trimester (or later) and can be big or small, family, friends, co-workers, etc… (whomever wants to host one) and is about gifting the soon to be mom and new baby.

    I don’t know that I will do a gender reveal because I don’t think I can wait to find out myself and I am terrible at keeping secrets so as soon as I know, everyone else will know.  I would definitely like to have a baby shower and since FH and I are only children, a shower will most likely happen.  I want the gender to be known before the shower because I would like for there to be some gender specific gifts (i.e. pink dresses and bow for girls, sports jerseys and chuck’s for boys, etc…)

    Post # 16
    1172 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We just had our close family (parents and aunt’s/uncles we see all the time) over and ordered pizza and I made a cake that was blue inside that I cut after we ate to announce.  It was very low key, definitely wouldn’t call it a “reveal party”.  SIL is also throwing me a baby shower that will be pretty low key.  I wouldn’t want to wait until the shower to announce the gender since people wouldn’t know whether to buy for a girl or boy and you’d end up with a lot of yellow and green J  I think if people know not to bring presents to the gender announcement then it won’t feel like just an excuse to get more gifts.  I know most people don’t really care what gender the baby is, because honestly it matters a lot more to you than it does to anyone else, so they may not be as interested in going to a reveal party. 

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