Post # 1
Ladies, I need your thinking caps!
In October I’m going in for the gender ultrasound an I’m trying to come up with a cute, clever, and fun way to tell my husband who’s deployed. The only thing I know right now is that the doctor will write it on a paper and put it in an envelope.
Two of our friends, the commander and his wife (he’s deployed with my husband and she’s here) have offered to help us out with this to make it fun. My initial idea is to send out two care packages to the commander ahead of time—one filled with all things pink and the other filled with all things blue. I would give the envelope to my friend and she would email/call her husband and tell him which box to have my husband open over Skype while we’re talking. Then, I’d find out the same time he does when he opens up the package. (Also, whatever package it isn’t, he can just send back to me and I can return everything—ha!)
I’m COMPLETELY open to better/different ideas, so if you have anything or have seen something different, let me know! I have about a month to figure something out, so I figured I’d start gathering ideas early since it’ll take 2-3 weeks for anything to get there. My husband is so completely excited about this baby and incredibly sad that he’s not here during the pregnancy that I really want to make this special for him.
Post # 3
that is a super sweet idea 🙂 i like it a lot.
Post # 4
Very very sweet, great idea!
Post # 6
Not sure you need the commander… Just have his wife send the right package and keep the wrong one in the states for you to return after the fact… Plus not tellinthree commander means fewer people to leak the secret early 🙂
Post # 7
Love auto correct on my phone lately!
Post # 8
I love your idea! Do that!
Post # 9
@MySunshine: I was going to send out two ahead of time so I don’t have to wait an additional 2-3 weeks to find out—that’ll just be torture! We already have to wait until I’m 21-24 weeks!
Nobody has any better ideas?!
Post # 10
I love the idea of having it baked into cupcakes so the cake is either pink or blue and the frosting and cupcake wrapper covers it until you bite in. You may not be able to send him cake with the 2-3 week lag but maybe you could give the envelope to the baker and Skype him in for a cake cutting. If you share the news over Skype, can you record the video for futhre reference? I feel like the gender reaveal could be cute and emotional to show your child eventually.
I like your idea but the thought of having him send one back so you can return stuff seems kind of like a hassel. Also, I imagine your husband does not need to pack up an extra box of baby things on his way home. Would it work with a box full of inflated baloons? Then it would be light to send and also not have to come back to you. Maybe with some thing small like a paci in pink or blue so your husband has something baby with him.
Post # 11
i dont really know of a better way for you to do this. What were you thinking of having in your box? becausei was just thinking that it could be too much for him to carry if it were large. but i really like the idea of making it really special for you and your hubby! and i def understand not wanting to wait two extra weeks just to send him a note at the same time. Perhaps you could write him a note on both blue and pink paper and then get the dude to give him the right one..
ETA, but i understand not wanting someone else to read something that is very personal. its really hard, have any other wives done anything like this that you know of?
Post # 12
I agree w/ the PPs saying that it’s probably a hassle to mail back the other box. I like the cupcake idea – because then you don’t need to mail anything, so there’s no lag time. You can ask the wife to take the envelope, check the gender and then order the cupcake for you so it’s revealed to both you and your husband when you cut into the cupcake. Or, send something that you don’t care to have sent back.
Post # 13
@mrsrangrang: Oh, the box wouldn’t be big at all and there’s a post office near where he is, and he can ship things back to me for free, so that’s not really a concern. I’d probably just put a onesie, some shoes, confetti, and color-specfic candy…stuff like that. I was also thinking about seeing if I can send mylar hellium ballons—I saw someone post that they did that for a birthday out there, so that could be fun…a little more work, though.
I love the cupcake idea, but unfortunately I don’t know if it would hold up well on its way over there. I did find this, though, which may be a good alternative! And if I end up doing the box(es) I could make do both blue and pink—I figure the guys out there will eat whatever I send no matter what the gender ends up being, so it’ll be a win/win for everyone. http://sugarderby.com/home/2011/3/3/gender-reveal-cookies-hey-baby-hey.html
I’ve looked on blogs and forums for other wives who’ve done this with their deployed husbands and I keep coming up short. However I do it I’ll definitely record the skype convo!