Gender reveal parties? Are they really that bad?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Enh, I think they are a bit overplayed these days.  If we do something like this it will be only for immediate family and very, very close friends.

I agree that it shouldn’t be a gift-grab, but I would spread that information via word of mouth.  And for me personally, I wouldn’t do official invitations.  I’d keep it small and simple, just a family gathering with a few dear friends as well.

Post # 4
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think it’s fine as long as it’s close friends/family only and people know not to bring gifts.  The alternative would be to just have a regular party, and then tell everyone the gender at the party.

Post # 5
15016 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think most of the ones I have seen are for family and close friends. I think they’re adorable and would go to one for a family member enthusiastically. I would not plan on taking a gift to one and probably not even a card. From what I’ve seen they are more of a family get together similar to how one would get together for labor day or memorial day or something like that.

Post # 6
4509 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My niece had one and in my opion, it wasn’t bad.  It was cute.  She invited just family and no gifts were required.  I personally wouldn’t do it, but that’s just me.  Have fun and celebrate your last baby, why not!? GL

Post # 7
4136 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Why not just have it as a get together, then include a little gender reveal part? Like, instead of making it all about revealing the gender… that way it’s not as “look at me” and people will get not to bring gifts. Like “since you’re all here….” kind of thing, then cut into the cake or release the balloon or however you wanted to do it. 

Post # 8
649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think they’re gift grabby as much as they are… overly indulgent, to me. If a friend or family member invited me, I’d still go. I might roll my eyes a little at the invite, but I also acknowledge that other people get excited and like to share news in different ways than me, so I would still participate and have fun with the family. 

Post # 9
737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@myluverbuny:  I love the idea of a gender reveal party.

My take is that if someone likes you they won’t care that you had a party if they don’t like you, then no matter what you do they will turn their nose up at it.  Might as well do what makes you happy. 🙂

Post # 10
2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I like @YUNO1‘s idea of just having a get together then revel the gender. That way you aren’t making a big to do about it and nobody will bring a gift.

Post # 11
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@myluverbuny:  Throw it like a BBQ and you’ll be fine.  People get fed up when it’s seen as another gift giving party, especially when it’s tough to know what to give when you won’t find out the gender until you’re at the party.

I wouldn’t even say anything about it being a gender reveal.  Just throw it like you would any other get-together in your circle of friends.  If word of mouth is generally okay, then just invite by word of mouth.

Post # 12
7191 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I think they’re fun, and I don’t think gifts should be expected.

Post # 13
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@myluverbuny:  I think they’re a lovely idea….  although I’ve never known anyone personally to have one.  My SO had a conversation about them and decided ‘everything’s better with cake!’ 😉

Post # 14
4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@myluverbuny:  I hate to be a downer but the consensus of me and many of my friends (who are in the child-bearing years, so everyone is pregnant!), gender reveal parties are lame, boring, and narcissistic. I would never, ever throw myself one and would be mad if someone offered to. I don’t even want a baby shower. 

Post # 15
4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@myluverbuny:  the harsh reality is that you care so much more than anyone else about the gender, so it’s a bit narcissistic IMO.  A whole party dedicate to finding out what you already know while you are the only one who really cares!  

I just think it’s so awkward whent he cake gets cut guests have to ooo and ah to be polite or they look like a crass coldhearted jerk.


Post # 16
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My only condition is to not go over board with how people are supose to find out.  I, personally, can’t read an ultrasound and most people can’t.  Also, those blue/pink cakes can be hard to see the color, so I would test your baker first. 

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