Post # 1
I think the idea is so cute, and there are so many cute and creative ways to make the announcement really exciting. However, I’ve also heard that some people find them annoying, self-centered, or “another party they are expected to bring a gift to” (even though I don’t think there is necessarily the expectation of a gift, people still feel compelled to) as there is also the baby shower, baptism, etc…
I think I would consider having a very intimate one, but most of my extended family and FI’s family lives far away. If we did it, it would probably just be to invite my immediate family and a few friends over for a meal and cake. Maybe it would just be more of a “gender reveal luncheon”.
I don’t know; what do you think? If you would do one, who would be appropriate to invite? Or do you think it’s not worth it?
Post # 3
@maggierose: I always assumed they were combined with the bridal shower, so I never thought they were gift grabby. But if it’s a completely seperate party to reveal the gender, I think it’s kind of annoying.
Post # 4
However, I’ve also heard that some people find them annoying, self-centered, or “another party they are expected to bring a gift to” (even though I don’t think there is necessarily the expectation of a gift, people still feel compelled to) as there is also the baby shower, baptism, etc…
That’s pretty much how I feel about it. But, to each their own!
Post # 5
I’m not a huge fan of gender reveal parties (I also don’t personally know anyone who has had one). The only way I would consider it is if the gender reveal was incorporated into some other party/gathering that was already happening. For instance you could do the gender reveal at the baby shower or a simple family get-together.
Post # 6
I think it’s really cute if it’s part of the baby shower — like, and now we will eat the cake which will reveal the baby’s sex! Yay. Fun. But if it’s an additional party, then no, I’m not into it. I don’t think it merits its own party.
Post # 7
I don’t understand why people don’t want to celebrate these things between themselves as parents. One of the most intimate and exciting moments DH and I have shared was DD’s 20wk ultrasound. I think the parties are pretty self-indulgent, and part of the reason why pregnant women and mothers are perceived as attention seeking.
Post # 8
When we get pregnant we will have one that is small and intimate with our close family (Dh parents, my parents and siblings) but not friends nor co workers. I don’t think it should be a big TahDoo. To each their own though.
Post # 9
@KateByDesign: I completely agree with you. I never had them when I was pregnant. I think they’re kind of self centered.
Post # 10
The only one that I know of IRL was done for a small group of immediate family. I don’t find that annoying or gift grabby at all. I thought it was a really nice way to get all the VIPs together who live further away etc. to share in an exciting moment with the couple. I like the idea of keeping it intimate.
Alternately, I think it should be done at the shower where people are attending and bringing gifts anyway. Not sure why people get in a tizzy over it. Like any other party, you can decline the invitation.
I never throw a party for gifts but feel like things in life should be celebrated. I wouldn’t avoid celebrating because someone may be annoyed. I made the mistake of announcing our engagement to VIPs over the phone (I don’t live in my hometown). I decided I will NEVER make an important announcement like that again. I robbed myself of the joy of seeing my sisters’, mom’s, etc. reaction in person. So a gender reveal party might be something I’d consider so all important people can be in the same room and share the moment. But I’m not even sure I want to know the gender myself LOL
Post # 11
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I think a lot depends on how its done. If your family is already local, why not have them over for a nice evening in with the gender reveal? But, I’m personally not a fan of actual parties with actual guests (friends, extended family, the neighbors, et al.). I didn’t know people brought gifts to the gender reveal, so I don’t know that I could call them gift grabby… do people really bring gifts? I’m not so much a fan of doing it at the shower either because I think if you’re going to know and tell the gender, you should go ahead and make life easier on your guests and tell them before they try to buy you stuff. If you want to kepe it a secret and get the gender neutral things, then just go team green. Plus, showers are usually at like 7 months, and most people find out the gender at 4 or 5 months.
Post # 12
I have always heard of them as part of the baby shower which I think is fine. But if it is it’s own separate party, then I would agree it’s a little gift grabby.
Post # 13
Why not just have a BBQ and cut the cake for dessert. It can just be a get together not a gender reveal party, then there is no indication of being gift grabby.
Post # 14
Can we get a “meh” option on the poll? That’s how I feel about them. Not my cup of tea, but whatevs 🙂
Post # 15
@Ellegee: I agree. I can’t WAIT for that special moment down the line when my Husband and I are in that dark room, looking at the little baby and finding out if it’s a boy or a girl. It will be a special moment between the two of us and I dont’ want that experience with anyone else (okay, maybe the tech, haha).
Hell, I hated having a bridal shower and rarely celebrate my birthday. I’m kind of anti-spotlight so I REALLY don’t understand this new trend. Haha.
Post # 16
I think they are cute, if they are done in a tasteful way. I plan on doing one. My reason for having a reveal party is because my baby will be the first grandchild and great-grandchild in the family. There haven’t been any babies in a long time, so everyone is excited. I plan to only invite local family members and a couple of my best friends. I am not expecting gifts, nor do I expect guests to spend any money to attend my party. I’m supplying food and drinks and am making it a casual get-together. My family is big on get-togethers, so it won’t seem out of the norm.