Post # 1
Hey guys 🙂
I know this isnt “wedding-related”, but since this is the Etiquette section, I figured y’all could help me out 🙂
I’m attending a good friend’s gender reveal party for her first child. It isnt a big event, just close friends. I’ve googled around trying to find out what etiquette is regarding gifts, but since these are a relatively new trend I’m finding ALOT of mixed opinions.
Do I bring a baby themed gift, or can I just do a hostess gift? I will *not* show up empty-handed, so any ideas you all may have would be much appreciated!!
Post # 3
Since there is usually a baby shower for baby-related gifts, I would probably just bring some sort of food or drink. Maybe you could offer to make a fun cake or cupcakes?
Post # 4
@badabing88: A hostess gift is fine. I’ve only been to a couple gender reveals and no one brought anything to either of them. We basically all just sat around eating until they decided to open the box/cut the cake for the reveal.
Post # 5
This isn’t a gift giving event. You can take a hostess gift if you feel the need, but it isn’t necessary.
I’m sorry, but I just don’t get these…
Post # 6
I don’t like showing up empty-handed to any occasion where food + drinks are provided so I would do a small hostess gift. If you can find a gender-neutral baby-related gift that is the same price as a hostess gift, that would be fine too. You certainly are not obligated to do a full, lavish shower gift at this event.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t be bringing anything excect maybe a bag of chips. I certainly wouldn’t be giving a gift!
Post # 8
@badabing88: Just a hostess gift. There will be plenty of gift giving oportunities to honour the new baby.
Post # 9
I would bring a nicer drink that the mom to be could drink.
Post # 10
I just threw one for my cousin, and one guest brought 2 little gifts. One in a blue bag, and one in a pink bag. She just gave the appropriate one after the cake was cut and saved the other for someone else.
Each gift was just a onsie, bib, and some swaddling blankets I believe.
Post # 11
Wow, I’ve never heard of a gender reveal party! It does kind of sound like another way to get more gifts out of people, so I’d suggest taking something for the party like a plate of cupcakes?
Post # 12
Hi @badabing88: Etiquette Snob here…
Gender Reveals are pretty much a new trend… and so Etiquette really hasn’t caught up with them quite yet.
Just the same, here is what I’d do…
Many Gals use them as a change to announce the Pregnancy … especially if they are done online
And one of my faves on-line would be WBee’s own Blogging Bee Mrs Lyre and this post = http://www.weddingbee.com/2013/03/14/pregnant-bride-before-wedding/#axzz2Pv5Q0YJP
Others, having already covered that aspect… decide to hold a “Gender Reveal Party”… to just confirm to their Friends & Family Members the Gender of the baby. In which case that is more of Head’s Up that anything else (“Yeah, we are having a Baby Boy”)
As you are a very polite and conscientious guest, you are planning of course to bring a Hostess Gift (and for that I commend you)
Now what shall it be ?
My first choice would be to use this opportunity for what it is “The Announcement”… and therefore let the Mom have her moment in the spotlight… she gets to say Boy or Girl… Blue or Pink
Therefore it would be more fitting if your Gift was for her the Mom-2B… especially so if you haven’t given her anything prior to this to mark her Pregnancy (the normal follow up to a Pregnancy Announcement would have been to send her a card, when you first heard the news)
Therefore… I’d be looking for a “Hostess Gift” that is something for her that she can use in the months to come… something pampering… or for her to prepare for the Baby’s Arrival (a good book on Pregnancy / Baby Care / Baby Names etc) comes to mind.
Baby Gifts can be given at an Upcoming Shower, or after the Birth.
Hope this helps,
Post # 13
If you’re determined to bring something, bring whatever you like. It’s not a gift-giving occasion but if you give it to the expectant mother discreetly it shouldn’t make other guests feel awkward.
Post # 14
Wow, I’ve never heard of this at all, maybe it’s a US thing. I’m the same as you, I would never turn up empty handed to someone elses event so I second PP that you take something suitable for the mum to be, maybe a scented candle that’s relaxing for a expectant mother or some pampering treats for her.
Post # 15
I think its lovely that you’re going to take her a gift, I always think a gift is appropriate haha! I think a hostess gift would be appropriate in this situation unless this is somehow a gender reveal/baby shower? Some sort of bath gift set or a gift card to their favorite restaurant for a little date night before the baby comes!
Post # 16
No. You’ll be expected to give a gift at the baby shower and when the baby is born… that’s more than enough. Bring some non alcoholic wine or some nice drink to share, but not a baby-related gift.