Post # 1
For any pregnant bees or those with kids… did you try for a specific gender and did it work? What did you do? I’ve been reading up on all the methods, etc… and I’m not too serious about trying for a specific sex, but I’d love to have a little girl first 😉 A healthy baby is of course most important, but I’m just curious. Anyway, just wondering if there’s anyone out there who’s tried and had success with this?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
I read all about gender prediction and honestly? It’s so confusing. I know people who swear by it, but at this point, I just want a baby. I don’t care if it’s a girl, boy.. nothing.
But I DO find the whole process interesting – so I’m going to lurk here for a while to see some answers 🙂
Post # 4
Ugh the bee ate my response.
Let me type it out again..
I don’t have kids and I’m not pregnant but I know several couples who have tried the shettles method and been successful in having the gender they wanted. Whether the method or fate was responsible clearly we don’t know. As long as you’re not too emotionally invested in having a girl then it could be fun to try it out and see!
Post # 5
I also am not pregnant and don’t have kids but I have come across alot of things online that seem to say that if you conceive the days before you ovulate you have a better chance of a girl and if you conceive right after you ovulate than you have more chances of a boy. There is even an app called baby planner that I have on my iphone that tells you when you are fertile and your best days for a boy or girl. I personally don’t care what I have either though. I just want to have a healthy baby so so so bad!!!!!! 🙂
Post # 6
If this baby isn’t a boy we’ll probably look into some different methods next go round. Since I didn’t even know about anything on the topic before getting pregnant I didn’t really see the point in looking into it yet. lol
Post # 7
i think i read once that if you want a girl the woman shouldnt O during sex….. my first thought was sucks to be a mom of girls if that was the case 🙂
i remember the crocodile hunter guy talking about his wife making him change his undies and certain foods because they wanted a boy and a boy is what they had
Post # 8
The problem with Shettles – to my mind – is that if it were true every IUI baby would be a boy. Obviously that’s not true, so… ???
Post # 9
@septcabride: ditto. I think it’s all a bunch of bologna!
Post # 10
Considering it’s the male’s sperm that determines the sex, I do not see how whether a woman orgasms or not would have any impact on which sperm fertilizes the egg.
Think of it this way, HUNDREDS of sperm are in the oviduct (uterine tube) where fertilization takes place. It’s takes the acrosomal vesicles of dozens of sperms to “eat” (hydrolyze) a hole into the egg so ONE sperm slips through. The fast block occurs with the immediate depolarization of the egg’s plasma membrane (preventing the entry of additional sperm), and shortly thereafter, the more permanent slow block is in place.
Now with a couple hundred sperm prancing around the egg, how the hell are you going to sway an X sperm rather than a Y sperm to fertilize the egg or vice versa? Women have eggs with the X chromosome and have no influence on the determination of the sex of the children.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
@septcabride: That’s a really good point. Hadn’t thought of that!
Who knows? I like that there’s still an element of mystery as to how your family ends up – boys or girls. 🙂
Post # 12
My RE’s nurse did mention (unscientifically and “off the record”) that there are more IUI boys than girls in her experience! So….maybe….
Post # 13
@septcabride: haha yeah…but then again I think shettles just UPs your chances of manipulating what you’ll have…I don’t think it claims to be 100% accurate? My uncle & his wife had a girl through IUI 🙂 explain that, shettles!
to OP: I used to prefer one gender over the other but after the lovely time I had just to get pregnant…and a few scares since Ive been pregnant…at this point I just want a baby. Period. I think shettle’s methods are just sucking all the excitment out of pregnancy and the surprise factor. At the same time—I really hope we get a mixture of genders. I don’t want ALL boys or ALL girls:(
Post # 14
Thanks for the responses:) We’ll probably just try timing… I’m not really up for all the work that goes into changing diet, etc. We’ll see what happens…!
Post # 15
@MCC919: One other thing (and I will totally admit that my husband and I used Shettles to try for a boy for the first few months…) – if you use Shettles to try for a girl, just be aware that the method lowers your chances of conception (because you BD farther away from O). If it takes you a few months to be successful, don’t fret – it could just be your timing. :o)