General do's and don'ts?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Do: only include things that are important to you. Don’t want a unity candle? Don’t have one. Don’t want to do readings? Skip them.

Don’t: worry about any “rules” or “traditions”, just do what makes sense to YOU.

Post # 4
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3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@CARA1978:  I’m glad you are still getting married this year. I recall a previous post of you being sick and the scary costs associated with that. I hope you have a grand day and many years of love!

 

Post # 9
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855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@CARA1978:  To the effect that people still like to ohhh and ahhh at the pretty cake, I think that people probably care. Wedding snobs probably care, but I think (and my thought only) is that the variety of a dessert bar would probably be a bigger hit because of the variety. People who don’t necessarily care for cake can find something more to their liking, people who don’t like a certain flavor you’ve picked for your cake can find something to their liking…

I just like that idea better.

Post # 10
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1107 posts
Bumble bee

For invitations, just do what is most comfortable and convenient for you. You don’t need a 9-piece invitation kit with fancy shmancy everything. If you want simpler, go for it. We set up a special email address and had people RSVP to it instead of a card that they mail in.

Same goes for pretty much any facet of the wedding. If you want simple, have simple. If you want fancy, have fancy. Don’t worry about any kind of rules. I’m sure that everyone will love how “you” the wedding is. 🙂

And if you are legitimately worrying about ceremony issues, etc., your officiant will be able to help you with logistics. But as far as the “feel” of the wedding, decor, etc…. make it all you!

Post # 12
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1107 posts
Bumble bee

@CARA1978:  In my opinion, it IS easier. First of all, it saves you at least 50% of your postage budget. RSVPs can get lost in the mail, etc. so it is just cheaper not to take a chance. Plus, SO many people won’t RSVP. Like…it will make you angry…so don’t waste your money on people who won’t even send in a card. Plus it’s kind of cool to do an email RSVP because I was able to hear from people that I hadn’t heard from in years, and we struck up conversations about updates on their families, etc. You couldn’t do that on a website or postcard. 🙂

Post # 14
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100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@CARA1978:  Not sure if you’ve found a place for GF desserts but my friend just got married and used Petunia’s Pies and Pastries and had nothing but good things to say. Just thought I’d suggest it since it looks like you are in Portland too 🙂

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