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Eh, I want to not care about this, but I do anyway. I just think if people have been taking the time to write personalized notes for god knows how long, then we should still be doing so.
i like the idea of doing the photo thank you, but leaving the inside blank for a real note. Otherwise, it's not a thank you but you're just on the mailing list.
I would be offended if I got this. Pending my relationship with the bride, I would probably call them out on this one. It is not personal and it is just plain lazy. I would rather not get any acknowledgement than to receive this.
We put all this time and effort in to making a really cute photo thank you card on Zazzle. People were kind enough to get us gifts... I can handle a few minutes writing out my gratitude by hand :)
I really appreciate when I get a mailed hand-written thank you card and so I think it is the least a couple could do after guests put the time and effort into getting you a wonderful gift!
No matter what you send, there has to be a personalized note written for the gift given! You can't just send a pre-printed generic thing and be done with it. No no no. I think I'm the reincarnation of Emily Post :D
I agree with everyone else on here - honestly, I think a wedding is the only event that really requires a handwritten thank you... these people can't take the time out to thank people who went way out of their way for them at least ONCE in their lives?
NO, NO, NO, NO, NO!!!!! You MUST write a personalized thank you! I would be FUMING if I received a generic thank you, FUMING! My silly cousin wrote my mom a 1 line wedding thank you card 9 years ago. It said "thanks for the $" I'm not even joking, she didn't even write out the word cash. We STILL talk about it to this day. Unbelievable..
There is no excuse to not send a personalized note. If someone took the time to get something for you, you should take the time to properly thank them. Period.
I don't think there's any excuse not to spend a few minutes to actually write thank you notes to the people who attended your wedding. I would be really upset as a guest to receive a pre-printed note.
Shows a lack of class to do this. Sorry, it's just extremely poor etiquette. Embarassing, really. I can't believe someone did this. I'd be pissed and probably openly vent about somebody's lack of manners. At least when I don't get a thank you card, I tell myself it got lost in the mail.
I always love reading the personalized thank you notes, so I think I'd be a little disappointed to receive a generic one!
it's not the best idea, BUT I do think it's better than not sending anything, which seems to be your real question. :)
For my Thank You notes, we had a picture with the two of us and a generic message written on it that we got printed at Costco. That was something they could keep as a momento of us. But we also included a smaller Thank You note where we personally wrote something to each single person or couple that came to the wedding. For family and big contributors to the wedding, we also included a CD showcasing our wedding pics from the wedding photographer.
I say a handwritten thank you consisting of a minimum of three sentences :)
I think people should do as they like, i will be handwriting thanks, but alot of my friends hate their own writing and that is the reason they feel more comfortable with printed invites and cards.
If we remember that there is also a man in the wedding, how would men do the thankyous if they were delegated the task? probably go around for a drink and a chat after the wedding is my guess. The ettiquette hoo har all ends up being more bride work and stress, and if the groom has to hear her whinge about it, an annoyance for him. I vote for whatever makes the couple relax and enjoy each others company.
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This is kind of the generic formula that I was taught to use when writing thank you notes.
Dear Mr. and Mrs. so and so,
Thank you for attending event. Why you are happy they were there.
Thank you for your gift.
One unique statement about said gift (this can be left out if it is money).
How you are going to use this gift.
Thank you again
Sincerely your name.
Obviously the more personal you know the recipient of the thank you card the more personal you note should be.
If you can't send a personalized note, is it better to send a one-size-fits all or just not send one at all?
In what possible circumstances "can't" you send a personalized note? I suppose that if you actually broke both your arms on your wedding day, it would be better to send something than nothing. But in any other situation, if the person can spend the time to get you a gift, you can spend the time to write them a personalized note.
i personally don't care much about thank you notes, but i do know a lot of people who do. my family takes thank you notes very seriously. if they don't recieve them, they stop giving gifts. therefore, i will and think that others should just suck it up and follow the rules and write out their thank you notes. if you think about it, they were nice enough to go out and buy me a gift, and wrap it, i can write them a little note.
A generic note is better than nothing at all, but not by enough to count. I just received a generic note for a wedding that I was in. I didn't really expect much more after the ordeal of the wedding (that's another story), but it peeved me. I don't think you have to write a long note (most people understand that you may have 100's to write), but a personal note is important. I like Laural's basic outline. I don't think its appropriate for you grandma, boss, and best friend to all recieve the exact same thank you note.
@2dBride - Too freaking funny.
@luli29 - Emily Post is a famous etiquette guru, now passed away.
To clarify, I wasn't thinking of doing this. I just felt a little funny about getting this in the mail instead of a 'regular' thank you note, so I was wondering what others thought or if it was just me.
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So I got a generic thank-you note recently for a wedding I attended. It was cute - a glossy card with a wedding photo of the bride and groom, and a typed note from them, but it was obvious that everyone got the same card. There was something to the effect of 'thank you for your generous gift.'
I'd never seen this before and wasn't sure how I felt about it. Honestly, I've been to weddings where I kind of think the couple never even sent me a thank-you note, but I barely noticed because, really, it's not like I was waiting for it with baited breath. Getting a note that I knew was more like a Holiday Postcard actually caught my attention more.
So...thoughts? If you can't send a personalized note, is it better to send a one-size-fits all or just not send one at all? Is the pre-printed note a trend that's on the way in?