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I actually agree with getting an easy to maintain haircut. Some days you'll be lucky to get a shower! If you like it short,keep it that way, or if longer and you can throw it up into a pony to get out the door quickly that's always good and easy too.
LOL Oh God the Bump sometimes gives such stupid advice. If you like your hair and it's not too much hassle to keep up with it, you do NOT have to cut it just because you're a mom now! Yeah, go buy some high waisted jeans and Reeboks too, maybe throw in a button up shirt from St. Johns while you're at it! You're a mom, you can never be attractive again!! I swear, all those websites make you sound as though you will not even be able to muster the energy to brush your hair and put on Chapstick ever again.
Honestly - it sounds like pretty good advice to me. New moms aren't going to have time to spend blow drying, straightening, curling, prepping, etc their hair every day. And honestly - there will be way more important things in your life than having an awesome looking hairstyle.
Just because it is "easy to maintain" doesn't mean that you can't look put together, young and attractive. And it doesn't mean that your hair has to be short.
I read that one and laughed. Since my hair is fine, flat, and hates me; I figure it's always easy to maintain because I don't even need to brush it. Anyway, it seems so stupid. Plus, I really like the advice you got about not changing so the mom retains some of herself.
Keep what makes you feel good! It's okay to spend some time alone, having your hair re-colored, getting your nails done, or a pedi.. or even just having some alone time to get ready and curl or straighten your hair during the day. Especially if it makes you feel beautiful.
I think throwing all of yourself into your child is never a good thing. You need to maintain some of who you are as an individual, and be ready to give up some things that used to be important, the same way you do in a marriage.
Yeah, I've heard of that suggestion before and I always wondering about that. I think my good friend cut her hair short. I have long hair and I am ultra low maintenance. I throw my hair in a pony tail anyway. Yeah, I know that if I cut my hair short, I would HATE it. I cut my hair short back in middle school and hated it. Never again. I think you should do whatever you think is comfortable. If you have hair that is always frizzy or curly or hair that you can't just get out of the shower and let dry on it's own, I might consider ways to make it less maintenance.
I guess it probably depends.
I am a wash and go kind of person, but I definitely know women who didn't adjust their elaborate pre-baby hairstyle expectations and lived to regret it.
You still have time to do your hair, if you want! Your baby will sleep a lot, and doing your hair could make you feel pretty and good about yourself, especially if you have baby blues or aren't feeling great about yourself since your body is still so different.
@camrie: You bring up some good points. I definitely would still want to feel like myself (in that way, by keeping my hair long like I have always had it)- but BOY is it a lot of work. It takes a long time to condition the stuff- but I also see what you are saying about not going out that much anyway. Hm.
I think maybe that's aimed at people who have hair/styles that require a lot of time and maintenance. Like Rosie Girl said, at the newborn stage it made me feel pretty and more like myself to take a little time every morning to do my hair. However, now that our daughter's in day care full time, and both of us are scrambling every morning to get ourselves and the baby ready in time to leave the house, I am definitely considering a more low maintenance hair cut (and mine only takes about 20 minutes to do anyway, lol!).
I would never cut my hair short just because i had a baby. It's long and girly and i love it. It's just as easy to maintain as short hair. When i'm lazy i just throw it back in a ponytail.
Actually for me when I get pregnant I def plan to chop my hair back to a bob. Right now I'm letting it grow long again because I figure when I am pregnant and have a child it'll be a while before I'll want it long again.
But then that's just me. I hate doing my hair and 9 out of 10 days let it dries naturally so that it's a frizzy mess. I might put makeup on once every 6 months. So I'm not really much of a "beauty regimine" person so for me it just makes sense to cut it short. It'll annoy me otherwise!
I'm not riding the baby train, but I still have a comment!
I have long, layered hair. If I don't have time to fix it... I don't. It's pretty simple.
This suggestion is based on the assumption that you are the type of person that must style her hair every day, or have a haircut that requires that. Sure, I *can* fix my hair, but it's long enough to go in a bun - and that's what I do with it 9 days out of 10. I'm sure when I'm pregnant/have a baby, it will just be 10 out of 10 :)
Ponytails might be my best friend for a few months but my hair is staying long.
I want to get a haircut soon so I don't need another one for awhile but not to change my hair style just because it needs a trim.
@cbee: Yeah I read it more as "Give up now, you'll never have another minute for yourself".
I don't think that's a great message to send to moms. Of course, you'll have less time for yourself once you have a baby. But I think there should be MORE of an emphasis on taking a few minutes to yourself each day - it's probably good for new moms sanity, and a happier momma means a better time for everyone.
I actually got out of the house much more than I was expecting to (and sooner). But I didn't get a haircut until maybe about 4-6 weeks post-delivery. I wanted a little change because I was bored with it but the layers she gave me ended up being hard for me to make look good. So we cut off my long hair. I really like the change and it is easy to manage. But I like it shorter because the baby is less likely to be able to grab it while eating. And now that my luxurious pregnancy hair is starting to fall out, the shorter loose strands make me less crazy (for some reason I really hate having a stray hair stuck to my arm, etc). But, yeah, The Bump is sometimes nuts.
@camrie:I think that people like to exaggerate how little time you have after a baby. A woman I work with saw me reading a book while pregnant and told me to enjoy it because it would be the last one for awhile! um, no, I have read several books since my son was born.anyways....
Personally I got out of the house and did something social every single day, starting at 2 weeks. I showered every single day - seriously, you need to be able to find at least 5 minutes for a shower, even if it means baby in a bouncy chair in the bathroom with you.
I didn't dry my hair for the first 6 weeks, but it was still summer, so no big deal. Since then I have - either during his nap or if he is awake and I am taking care of him, he would be ina bouncy chair, or sitting on the floor near me playing with toys.....now, when he starts crawling, I am not sure :)
I saw that same thing and also laughed - before the baby was born. When he was 2 months old, I finally understood and chopped off 10 inches. So did all 3 of my friends with infants. For me, time wasn't even the biggest issue. The baby kept spitting up in my hair so I constantly felt gross. When he wasn't spitting up in it, he kept grabbing it and pulling really hard. And baby hands are impossible to get loose from! The breaking point came at his baptism. He had grabbed a fistful of hair from both sides of my head and would NOT let go. My husband was trying to free me while they were calling his name to come up for the baptism. Finally my husband got me free (I lost a huge clump of hair over that one), but I very nearly had to have my son baptized while he had my head attached to his fist. It was so emabarrasing! I made a hair appointment the next day. The other problem is that my hair is falling out in huge clumps now that the pregnancy hormones are gone. Before I cut it, I was having to empty the tub drain 3 times during every shower. Pain in the butt and gross :(
I think this is very practical advice to have your hair in a style thats easy to maintain. Alot of my friends who've had babies have also told me the same thing that they get an easy to maintain style so they can just wake up and no worry about their hair
@Janna19: HAHA! My girlfriend has two girls under two. She reads like 5 books a week. No joke! and her kids are happy healthy, loved everything. She just has an AMAZING routine for each day! (I think she's also a bit of a speed reader... but still).
ETA: PS. I will not be changing my hair style because I'm going to have a baby. and in my opinion, a pony tail is much more "easy maintenance" than short hair, unless you get a buzzcut. I love my long hair, it makes me feel pretty.
I dont want to cut my hair short once I have a baby because I have such a hard time growing it long. I will just go with the ponytail/bun method. Honestly for me a short haircut is more work because if I have short hair I HAVE to do it (blowdry at least if not straighten too) because if I dont it looks ridiculous. WIth longer hair I can just put it up and that takes a millionth of the time of doing even a bob hairstyle!
I'm not pregnant (or TTC) yet, but I had heard a while back that "an easy to maintain haircut" does not imply that it needs to be short. For example, if it's too short to throw up in a ponytail or bun, it might be more of a hassle if you don't have the ability to throw it up real quick and it's in your face.
@.twist. and @PitbulLover- you beat me to it!
I have two children, and personally, I find it annoying when other women would tell me I would be lucky to have a shower or leave the house with make up on. I got pregnant kind of young (20) and having a newborn was so bewildering to me, and yet I still managed to have a shower every.single.day. I have long thick wavy-curly hair and when I don't want to straighten it, I put it in a side braid or a messy bun and it takes 2min!
I kind of agree with it but then again I don't think it is nearly as important as some people think. I kept my hair the same until a little while after I gave birth and I didn't even do it becuase of having a baby. my hair was never terrrible... at least no worse than it was before.
ETA: one other thing is all babies are different so yours could sleep a lot giving you time to do your hair and what not, but then again yours could be awake a lot, not giving you much time to do all of that stuff. My baby did not sleep all the time, not at all. after the first few days she was awake the majority of the day.
@.twist.: Once they start sleeping through the night, they are down pretty early - if anything I wish I had *more* time with my son and less for myself!
@Bostonsmom:totally agree. People had me thinking baby = life is over. Not true. Baby = life changes, but still goes on. I remember meeting a bunch of moms in central park once when my baby was 3 weeks old and they all seemed shocked I was out and about....but I was shocked to learn people just stay home. I would have gone nuts being cooped up!!! plus my baby loooves the outdoors :)
I would think you want to keep it the same, because you already know how to deal with it. Yea, you probably won't curl it or straighten it like you used to for a while.. but why cut it a certain way? What do they mean anyway? What is an "easy to maintain" haircut? That's different for everyone.
@Janna19: See? That's what I thought it was saying! I think that's crappy.
IF after your baby is born you decide to get it a different haircut because it works better with your routine - that's cool. But adding it to a check list with essentials like "Find a Pediatrician" and "Pack a bag for the Hospital" seems like it's saying you're life is over. Why doesn't it have stuff like "Get rid of all your nice clothes since you'll be covered in spit-up"? :)
@camrie:I think it's silly. I think every person with a baby has an entirely different situations, how does The Bump know how much time you'll have. Personally, I like having long hair. It makes me feel sexier, and it took me forever to grow it out. When we have kids, if it gets in the way, I can put it up. Problem solved.
I had to stop reading The Bump a long time ago because it made me want to hit things. I would never cut my long hair.
Why does everyone seem to think that "low maintainence" equals short??
I have always had long hair (and always will - It makes me feel good about myself and my looks). Yet one of my requirements when I get it cut is that it is low maintainence because I don't have the time or patience to style it each morning (and I don't have kids yet).
Low maintainence means a style that doesn't require daily blow-drying, curling, straightening, etc to look put-together. I can blow-dry my hair and be done in 5 minutes. Or I can let it dry on its own and it looks fine. Run a brush through it and go. Or for those really lazy days - it can go in a ponytail. It is still long yet entirely low maintainence.
I agree about the 'your life is over' theme that goes on at baby websites is really annoying. I think it's more annoying now that there's not all that many weeks to go and I'm excited to welcome our little girl but reading these websites makes it seems more depressing than exciting - they make it sound like you have to be a shut in and stay in your pjs to be a good mommy and if you think about taking 5 minutes to yourself that you suck at life and need to just realize your life isn't your own anymore.
@Mrs.KMM: I'd love to have hair that I didn't need to blow dry each day. The only days that I let it air dry is out at the lake or something. No blow dry = wavy Mufasa looking hair for me.
I'm never going to give into this! I've had my hair long for so many years and if I don't have time, I don't. But when I do have a free second, I'm with you- it'll make me feel like "me" to do my hair. Plus, my head looks like a bowling ball with a short cut- I made that mistake once in middle school. Never. again.
I'm planning on keeping mine the same...it's something that I can throw in a ponytail on those days that I won't have the time to wash it :)
Here's my easy-to-maintain/breastfeeding combo hairstyle. I bought a bunch of bobby pins since I lose about 5 a week. I pin my bangs back to one side so I can breastfeed and go about my motherly tasks without the bangs in the way. I switch my bobby pin to clip bangs to the opposite side at the end of each feeding so I know which side to start to feed on next. (You have to switch sides at each feed.) It's great b/c I am always wearing the bobby pin at home with baby. There are products sold for the same purpose but they are either uncomfortable (rubber band around wrist) or inconvenient (not always wearing a nursing bra or a specific shirt). The only hard thing is to remember to clip it on the right side after a shower. This is also great for sleep deprived nighttime feedings.
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So I keep track of how far along I am on TheBump.com - they also have a checklist (much like the wedding ones) of baby related tasks. I don't really follow it - but it can be some good food for thought. However today I was scrolling thru it and one of the "tasks" was "Get an easy to maintain haircut?" To me this seems totally ridiculous.
I mean I GET that for a while after the baby is born I'll be baby-focused and won't have much time to care for myself. But I probably won't really care how my hair looks since I won't be heading out of the house much during that time.
Some of the best advice I've heard was actually DON'T change your hair once you get pregnant (if you like it) for the simple fact that everything else changes (your body, potentially your employment status, your routines) so women can feel like they're losing a little bit of their identity, so keeping it the same can help you feel connected to who you were before you became "pregnant lady".
Anyone agree? Disagree? Any other ridiculous advice you've gotten?